I have been dating the same wonderful guy for the past 7 years. I really love him and care about him a lot. Last year in March he took me to look at rings. I am 23 and he is 23. I really thought we might get engaged over the holidays but it didn't happen and I am starting to get discouraged and a little sad. I know that we are rather young but he owns his own house, has paid off his truck and seems to be doing okay financially. I am in my last semester of graduate school and I have a good paying part-time job that will easily be full time if I cannot find a job by summer. I have lived with my parents during school and saved a lot of money for the possibility of our marriage (i.e. weddings aren't cheap these days). I have been in four friend's weddings already which is tough for me. And I am really struggling because I love this man but I want a commitment from him so badly. He says he loves me and wants to marry me but I feel actions speak louder than words...what do i do?
2007-01-17 04:57:05 · 7 answers · asked by Kit Kat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can help him to resolve his hesitation. Talk to him seriously and you can either get his commitment or know his mind. You can then take the next step. You have waited long enough.
2007-01-17 05:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are only 23!!!!! Slow down tiger!!! Seven years huh? So that means you guys have been dating since ... 16. From 16 to 20 doesn't count cuz you're not even an adult yet. So the entirety of your relationship has been spent during your school years. Give him some time girl. He's only 23. He's more than likely just taking his time because you guys have been together already for so long. Don't hound him ... maybe drop subtle hints. But what would you do if he decides he's not ready yet? Apparently he isn't cuz he hasn't asked. Be patient and when the time is right ... your dream wedding will happen.
2007-01-17 05:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit down and have a serious talk about where your relationship is going. Personally, I still think that you are too young to be married. If after your serious talk and he has no intention of marrying you in the future, then perhaps you should find someone who will in the end. You have already committed 7 years of your life to him.
2007-01-17 05:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 and married dont get married yet and if he doesnt marry you this year leave him... stop wasting time go out have fun and then he'll ask you to marry when he know he doesnt have you anymore!
2007-01-17 05:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he took you out to see rings and wants to marry you, what is taking so long.
2007-01-17 05:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by _ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Propose to him! Make the plans yourself. Take charge of your life!!!
2007-01-17 04:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait. you can't make him marry you (cause it is not right). If oyu can not wait then leave.
You can ask him if you want to hurry things along but be prepared if he says no.
2007-01-17 05:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋