My husband left me and my two kids, one of whom has CP, for a woman in the neighborhood. I have a running buddy, i.e., we jog three times a week. Her husband plays tennis with my husband. I want to stop running with her. They have invited my husband and the woman over to their house. She claims that her husband did it but I am too old for grammer school and the games. I want to just move on to another group of friends and woth my life. Thoughts?
2007-01-17 04:45:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes i would feel the same way. She obviously has a hunger to be in the middle, so sad. Do they ever invite you and a guy over? I htink I would find another to run with too. Not a good situation for you.
2007-01-17 04:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever makes you comfortable, this is about you now. They are obviously not as good of friends as you thought. And maybe after you have had time to heal things could change. I experienced a similar situation. My husband and i split, he started taking his girlfriend to our friends house to hang out. I was very hurt by everyones insensitivity to how I might feel about it. But then I decided that I did not want to continue the friendship with them only to continue to hear about his new girlfriend. They are his friends, he can have them, I am secure enough to know that I can make new ones. You do not have to put yourself through that, make new ones, they are a dime a dozen and the real ones would not do that to you.
2007-01-17 12:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by wyllow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not comfortable with people starting to accept your ex-husband and his new life, then you need to find a new set of friends. If her husband is friends with your ex, you can't expect him to give up the friendship because of you; life goes on. I think, moving on to a totally new group of people with no ties to the past would be productive at the moment. Good luck.
2007-01-17 12:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you enjoy this woman's company, you are only hurting yourself. If she means nothing to you...stop running with her. That would be a tough spot if she and her husband were friends with both of you. That old joke about who gets custody of the friends is very true sometimes. Good luck to you, but try not to be bitter. It will make your life miserable! Hey...he is a cheater and SHE got him...lucky her!
2007-01-17 12:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew. I mean, wow. I would find another to run with, yes.
I would excommunicate any "friend" that I had who dumped his family like that. I could not respect the person. The fact that she does means you probably should either run alone or find another.
Don't stop running though. I am sorry this happened to you.
2007-01-17 12:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find other friends to run with. Distasteful on their part for getting in the middle, with your husband and "other woman". I know that if that happened to me, i would feel betrayed.
2007-01-17 13:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by rocketgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. You can still run with her, but that is all. You don't need to talk about anything but running. Keep her until you find another running partner. Move on with your life.
I would move away if I could and start fresh.
2007-01-17 12:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I'd stop running with her. Move on, you deserve better. It does sound like games. Just disrespect, you know. Run in the other direction.
2007-01-17 12:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to be friends with someone not so controlled by her husband.
2007-01-17 12:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will always be the elephant in the room no one wants to discuss. Stop running with her.
2007-01-17 12:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋