3 months ago i met this girl, and basically fell completely in love with her bc she is unlike anyone i know... she kinda liked me but it didn't work out and now we are with other people. i don't think i've ever been hurt the way she has hurt me and now i can't stop thinking about her. she is always on my mind. i want to forget her, to forget she exists and everything that happened and be good to my girlfriend but i can't. why can't i stop thinking about her? is it a sickness?
2007-01-17 04:38:13 · 8 answers · asked by rhiannon_kc 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You need to take a leave of absence from your current rebound relationship until you get over the ex, otherwise you will bring the old baggage into the new relationship.
When you can no longer be obsessed with the ex girlfriend, then you will be ready to move on. If you can't give whatever time and energy you have to devote to a new relationship, it's best to stay out of one until the obsession with your ex is over.
No, this isn't a mental disorder, it's only that you're not over your last relationship yet.
2007-01-17 04:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now If You want to call a broken heart a mental illness well then go ahead. But i think quite often people in our society seem to want to label things they just do not understand. I think all you need is Time... Yes the age old Remedy that seems to mend everyones broken heart,just give yourself time stay busy.Get a planner and make a complete list of things to do to get your mind off of this matter... You Will Soon Be Amazed That all your energy is being directed to positive things other than sitting and mulling something over you may not be able to change.Cheers! Get Busy!
2007-01-17 12:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by candace_conner2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not a mental disorder sweetie! You just really got your heartbroken! You really should be fair to your new girlfriend and be honest with yourself and take a break from relationships for a minute! Just long enough for you to get over what happened and not have a relationship out of a rebound...that's what sounds like is happening now! Just heal yourself up honey,so you can move on to a real relationship where you both will prosper! Good luck, God bless, and take care-it DOES get easier with time!
2007-01-17 13:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by dodlydink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're not having thoughts of killing her, you're okay.
If you're just having obsessive thoughts about the time you spent together and how much she means to you, it's normal. This is what happens after really being emotionally involved with someone. However, if these thoughts continue to comsume you over a lengthy period of time, you'd better get some counseling. Being lovesick is a temporary condition, not an illness.
2007-01-17 22:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by JOURNEY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key sentence that you wrote is: "I don't think I've ever been hurt the way she has hurt me." Your hurt is what you cannot get over. You were disrespected and you feel that you were disregarded and rejected. The way to getting over this hurt is to forgive her. She is only human and is not responsible for your feelings.
Jesus says that forgiveness brings freedom. You are a valuable person, you can love and be loved. Concentrate on being positive about yourself.
2007-01-17 13:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is most definitely not a mental illness, it seems to me that you still love your old gilfriend however. This is a tricky situation. If you really love your new girlfriend you should try to get over this. See a counsellor if it helps. Good luck.
2007-01-17 13:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Corrida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, it's just the process of getting over somebody. Try to find a hobby or something to keep your mind occupied with anything not related to girls, romance, etc. Like basketball or hiking or skiing or something.
2007-01-17 12:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by N.FromVT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not, but ppl need time to get over some one they used to love
2007-01-17 12:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by Maro's mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋