She says she has always been like this, she throws things around, speaks to people in harsh and rude manner, does not show any compassion towards others (she has one 'mate', they work together very well, but if anyone else tries to join their team.. well, they quickly make new person's life miserable). We work as a small team (less than 10 of us) and we can't really divide into two. We also work in a hospital.. I'm trying to be kind and professional and understanding towards her, but it is challenging. If you know any way how to make it easier to speak to her about this please help me. I am the newest addition to the team and am unsure if I need to do anything about this. Others have tried, and failed..
2007-01-17 04:32:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Wow, I wonder if this is the same hospital that I worked in. Sounds like you are describing the same exact problem why I left !
The way I see it is if this person has been there a long time, there won't be anything you can do about it. Even if you are a new person, you can complain to her supervisor, but nothing will get done. It is like you say. Others have tried and failed.
This department I worked in had a huge turnover rate and could have been a great place to work if it weren't for this person.
You can see what Human Resources policy is on transferring to another department after so long, or politely bow out now while you're still under a probationary period. It isn't worth the effort to fight a diva in the workplace.
2007-01-17 04:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront her, with backup of your friends who also work there. Treat her the way she threats you. Fight fire with fire!! Tell her to shut up and that she better start behaving nicely to everyone, or you all are going to make sure that her life becomes miserable. No matter if you are new. This has to stop. You will also get more respect from the people you work with. And there is always an other option: if you are too scared ( that is ok, too), you just do not pay attention to her, and when she throws something at you, you say OK, STOP IT RIGHT NOW! And do not get into a fight with her. You can choose from 2 things- confront or don't. Hope I helped, and **** that b**** ! good luck.
2007-01-17 12:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by Joka B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go over her head! Professionally she might be productive, experienced, and invaluable, but unless she can do the work of the entire team she's alienating, it won't matter. If going to her directly and calmly discussing with her how her behavior affects you doesn't work, then you need to go to your/her Supervisor and discuss it with them. You might not be able to do anything about her playing the clique game, but as far as her being rude and throwing things, etc., that is just unacceptable in the work place! Explain to the supervisor that she is distracting you and talk about how she negatively affects your ability to do your job. Don't bring up how others feel about it unless they're willing to talk too.
2007-01-17 12:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by N.FromVT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ppl like this usually advance quickly up the corporate ladder.
You can eithor take the hard road and move against her every step; and look like the problem employee in the end.
OR
You can do everything possible to help her advance her career: Find new (better) job, or be her cheerleader to get her to change positions. In short, be a suck-up: Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer. Who knows, she may help you advance if you bend to meet the situation.
Sorry, reality is Alpha usually always wins and advances.
2007-01-17 13:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I'm around such a person, I always treat her/him very nice. I've met lots of such persons and you know what? After a while, each one of them started behaving nicely with me. Only at that stage I could talk to them about the way they behaved and how it hurt others.
I know that others will tell you to treat her the same way, but from what I've experienced, I realized that whenever I behaved the same way, they reacted even worse.
2007-01-17 16:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what she do, so that she will know how it feel to be treated the same way!
2007-01-17 12:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by Eric T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋