Prenuptial Agreements, are you for or against them?

Question

i was listening to the radio earlier and they asked this question and about half were for and half were against so feel free to state your case lol =). do you think it's say "we will eventually get divorced" or "it's for the best interest of both of us." personally i'm for them but that's probably because i've been through my parents ugly divorce.

ps i cant spell. i was trying to hurry before my boss came over lol =)

oops, thought i spelled something incorrectly and i didnt lol. dont mind me

that's funny..all of these answers. my parents were married 23 years then got a divorce.

not to mention that more than half of marriages fail. it's not always aboout the 'right' attitude.

Answer 1

Definitely FOR, not just for the reasons mentioned previously but to address other issues as well. Such as, if SHE leaves or cheats should she return the engagement ring, if HE leaves or cheats, what should he be forced to pay, etc. This can help clear up a lot of issues, although, there are many people out there who try to get whatever they can from someone, that's why I think that so many people are choosing to remain single these days.

Answer 2

Some people will say it's not romantic, but neither is the actual marriage contract. The proposal is romantic. The wedding ceremony and reception are romantic. The marriage license is a legal document, just like the pre-nup; not romantic at all. You pay your money and sign your names. Some women say it's insulting, and he must not really love her if he ask for a prenuptial. Well, likewise she must not love him, she must love his wealth, if she won't sign one. If love is what matters why is a legal financial agreement holding up the show? Point in fact, if she *loved* him she would offer to sign a prenuptial agreement if he wanted it without him asking for it. You buy auto-insurance enough though you don't /want/ to get into an accident and the truth is 70%+ of divorces are initiated by women [often after being the ones that wanted to get married in the first place.] A man that marries today without a prenuptial is an idiot [or a women if she has the better financial position.] She can be the one that cheats and she still gets 50% of his wealth in a divorce. She can also divorce him for *any reason at all* and still get 50% of his wealth. If he cheats sometimes she can get *even more* of this wealth. Prenuptial's also go both ways, she should ensure her assets are protected as well. The courts don't default to 50%/50% because that's "fair" they default to that because it's "easy" [there are too many divorces and too few resources for them to figure out what is actually "fair".] A prenuptial-agreement allows the couple to decide for themselves what the divorce terms will be rather than default to the court and state's laws so a liberated, educated woman would regard a prenuptial agreement as empowering. Since the both parties must willfully enter into the prenuptial, she can choose not to sign and he can choose not to marry, consequentially there is no con because it is a mutual freewilled agreement. Sorry I have nothing to aid your side, but those are the arguments you will be facing. To get cons for prenups you have to take the "princess mentality syndrome" approach and claim that women are /entitled/ to a fancy expensive wedding, reception, honeymoon, and /entitled/ to his 50% of his wealth any time she wants to take it. Prenups get in the way of that entitlement. "A gold-digger can't get what she wants with a prenuptial in the way." "They're not romantic" is the best you got that isn't cold-blooded.

Answer 3

I personally think that it depends on the two parties and the amount of property brought to the marriage. I feel if each person has a lot of valuable property then yes so you can ensure you keep what is yours. If on the other hand you are right out of college and really don't have anything I don't feel it is worth it. I also believe that if there are children before the marriage I think that a prenup would be a good idea. I don't know that I would break up with a person just because they didn't want to sign a prenup but then again it is based on the individuals involved.

Answer 4

Being married is not at all what it was like for the last generations. Divorce is very common now. People solve marital issues with divorce now. I think a pre nup is very smart considering marriage lasts a much shorter time. Its not saying there is no faith that things can be great, but its just a good idea given the times.

Answer 5

For and I think they should have time limits placed that gradually dissipate over a period of 7-10 years. This would preclude anybody, man or woman marrying the other person in order to make a buck.
A codicil about the care and maintenence of children could be placed in it as well, stating unequivocally whether the two agreed on the right to have or not to have children and what eaches stance would be. I know it sounds cold and harsh, but marriage is a business proposition; you don't need a sheet of paper to declare your love for each other. It's only when money comes into it that it gets ugly and partisan.

Answer 6

Never having been in the upper echelon of income, it is easy for me to say I'm against them. If one is considering this concept, then a doubt will always be in the back of one's mind that this relationship can fail. Even with kids involved, this does not make for any sense of loyalty or dedication. Frankly, if one needs an agreement like this, then it seems more likely that one is probably not terribly confident in one's ability to choose a mate who will be honorable, loyal, dedicated, loving and true. That said, high finance has a way of corrupting people's perspective, either for those who have, or those who deny having the intent to want. Again, one would hope that integrity would be in large possession for both parties. All said, there are already too many areas where legalisms invade places that ought to be inhabited by common sense.

Answer 7

Considering that nobody can tell what their partner is going to be like six months, one year, or even fifty years down the line, then yes, I am for prenups.
It may be a marriage made in heaven but, later on down the line it may end up a nightmare.
Remember....even though you sign a prenup, you can always null it later on in the relationship.
However....Without it you are just at a loss if things don't go the way you thought it would. As is the case (most of the time).

Answer 8

If I had a bunch of money, and all that...I'd probably want a prenup because nowadays its better to be safe than sorry. Besides, if the person you intend to marry never intends to leave or divorce you, what do they have to worry about? If they get mad its because they want a piece of your pie. ;) But I think regardless of how much you have in life, it is always a good idea to be prepared for the worse. At least that way you can protect the assets you earned prior to marriage...

Answer 9

It depends. I personally think that if a person lacks the confidence to marry without one, then they probably shouldn't be getting married.
However, I would make exceptions when there are children from prior marriages. For instance, when my father remarried he (I think so, anyways) had a pre-nup with his wife that allocated certain assets to his children (i.e. me and my brothers). This sort of functions as a will as well, but it protects certain things for us.

In MOST cases I am against them. However, if the marriage is "one of convenience" (i.e. he gets a hot young wife, she gets a wealthy husband) and they both know it probably won't last forever and is more of a business arrangment (like a long-term lease on a hooker) then they should have one.

Answer 10

Definitely pro prenuptial agreement.
It believe that when significant assets are involved, they must be protected in the event of a divorce. It is akin to buying home insurance. I'm not going to burn down my house, but just in case something happens, I want the security of knowing that I can be returned to a state where I was when I started. It works both ways too, for men and women.
Emotions are one thing, but practicality and survival are another.