Can my ex wife legally cause problems in my new relationship?

Question

I recently been divorced, and had been dating a girl through out the separation. My ex wife and my girlfriend were friends before are separation. Now that I'm divorced she wants to be friends with my girlfriend. And they are both OK with this. But I'm not. My ex tells my girlfriend every negative thing about me always trying to make me look bad. It is causes problems in my new relationship. My ex and i also have 2 kids together. The things she is saying, is making me dislike my ex more. In return making me want to cause her problems and not wanting to work with her at all. I asked her kindly if she can stay out of my personal life and my relationship and she should respect my personal life as i would do the same for her. I also talked to my girlfriend telling her i don't like them hang around each other. It seems like my ex is out to ruin mine and my kids happiness with my new girlfriend. Is there anything i can do? or any legal stand point to keep my ex out my relationship?

Answer 1

Legally, no, you can't. Your ex and your girlfriend were friends before you started dating her, so they have the right to maintain that friendship. And frankly, you should have known that dating your wife's friend would lead to problems and clashing loyalties.

Out of respect to the budding relationship, and each other's feelings, however, they should refrain from discussing you. Ask each of them to respect the awkwardness of the situation, and refrain from discussing details about you or their relationships with you. Ask your ex-wife to, for the sake of the children's happiness, to let you move on to a new relationship and to let them accept this new woman into their lives. If neither woman is willing to compromise on this, it's time to move on to a new and unattached relationship.

Answer 2

Unfortunately, unless she threatens you with physical and bodily harm, there is no legal grounds to ban her out of your life. If you talk with your lawyer and ask for an "Order of Protection" forbidding her to call you or come within certain distance of you, there better be grounds for this, otherwise, it's nothing but malicious talk. I know it's making you really angry and causing negative vibes, and to be honest with you, your current girlfriend should not be hanging out with your ex-wife, it's just too weird, and obviously pointless, so the real question is, why is does your girlfriend value her friendship with your ex, more then her future with you? Does she not see the intent to harm and cause hardship to all by your ex? How would your girlfriend feel if you became best friend with HER A ex-boyfriend? This has to be sorted out now, before it gets out of hand. As far as your ex. Make sure you take the high road and ignore her talk completely. She is jealous of you and probably still hurt over all this. Tell her that you want the best for your kids. They should not be in the middle of this mess. So focus on building the best relationship with your children, they hold the most importance here, not your wife or your girlfriend, who are both (luckily for you) replaceable.

Answer 3

You may want to pack up and move a little further away from the ex wife just to keep peace in your relationship, because if you try to do things legally like restraining orders etc... you will end up by your self. You might want to clue the gf in that the ex is not necessarily her friend if she is only saying negative things about you. Your approach is all wrong, you never want to restrict a grown woman's movement, you might want to come at her on a more personally level, and let her know how you feel emotionally and not what you want her to do.

Answer 4

Leave it all behind. why would you continue with this relationship anyway? I don't believe there is anything that you can do legally because you can't MAKE your girlfriend not talk to your ex and vice versa.

I would break up with the girlfriend and find someone else who the ex doesn't know. If you stay in this relationship, there will be no peace. And don't have your kids around your new girlfriend (the one you will get after you break up with this one).

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Answer 5

Your girlfriend is too close to the problem. Furthermore, she is the reason why the friendship between the two women exists. There are millions of women in the world. Some of them live right in your town, or close by. Drop this current girlfriend and take the time to find a woman who will have your best interest at heart.

Your wife is trying to control your life now, just as she did in marriage; so don't be foolish enough to pick another friend of hers.

Answer 6

You don't need a legal standpoint tell your girlfriend it is not acceptable for her to hang out with or talk to her.Personally i don't know why she would when my husband goes to pick up his kid from his ex I have never said one word to her and we have been married for a year.Never uttered one word hell i look at her as an inconvience in my marriage having to see her every two weeks.Well if i were you i would sit her down the girlfriend i mean and tell her this won't happen anymore or we are done.That is not normal for an ex to want to hang out with your girlfriend anyway she has something up her sleeve i promise you if it continues she will sabbotage your relationship with this new person.You should stop it before it gets to that point....good luck

Answer 7

I don't think there is alot you can do at this point unless you have a talk with you girlfriend and tell her how you feel about this friendship. There is no need for her to be interering in your new life. If you want to check the legal aspects, consult an attorney. There are alot that don't charge you for a consultation. Good luck.

Answer 8

You need to sit your girlfriend down and tell her how you feel and ask her to not associate with your ex anymore and if she understands then she will do as you wish. If she doesn't then I would say maybe it is time to trust your girlfriend and if this destroys your relationship then maybe it wasn't meant to be in the first place. Not to be rude but why in the world would you date someone who was a friend of your ex?

Answer 9

I feel for you. You are so screwed. Your ex-wife can talk to, and be friends with anyone. If your g/f and she are friends, it's gonna be bad.

The advice my room mates would give is to talk to them. See why your ex does it, and try to fix the things that you did that your ex felt were negative to your ex so your g/f sees your a changed man. If you can do that, your g/f will see that your not the person your ex knew, and she will probably convert on her own.

I still say for this g/f, you're in for a bad time.

Answer 10

Forget the x, if your girlfriend is really interested in you, she's the one you need to work with here. Let her know that her association with your x makes you very uncomfortable. There's no reason they should be buddy buddy. Why would she even want to. Perhaps they both have a plan. I'd give your gf and ultimatim. Either you or your x. Be prepared for whatever her response may be.