well, ive been introvert for years , and am basically really evasive of discussing personal stuff with ppl my age. i dont mind sharing problems with older people, who i think are more mature and wiser than i am. also, i dont party very often. im 19 now and i feel i should be more extrovert. how do i go about it. i used to wear braces when i was 14- 15. and now i wear glasses. do u think that's made me a bit reserved in the presence of people? how should i go about changing my personality gradually? thanks for helping out..
2007-01-17 04:19:30 · 4 answers · asked by *bling* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should let go of your insecurities and have more confidence.
People like that.
Don't be afraid of embarrassing yourself.
Go out and be YOU.
2007-01-17 04:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do, say something everyday that scares you. If you are afraid of saying hi to people, say hi to people for a day. Smile at people, it opens the door to conversation and makes you feel good too. Practice makes perfect. If you are a private person, you are a private person. That is not being evasive. I think it is a good quality. Lots of people where glasses. If it makes you uncomfortable, get contacts.
2007-01-17 04:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are me to a "T" when I was your age. I kept myself out of a lot of potential trouble. I prefer quality friends over the drama of a wild time mixed in with a lot of alcohol and crossing of boundaries.
It's up to you how you want to be. To answer your question, realizing that everyone is insecure does wonders to remove the obstacles. It gets you to stop placing others above you and you start to treat them like the peer that they really are with worries and dreams and fears and hopes just like you.
Above all, don't stop being a quality person and never ever engage in gossip.
Also, it sounds like you're college age so finding and meeting nice people your age in a "safe" setting like both of you having to attend the same classes is an excellent start.
2007-01-17 04:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by mickeymouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i would just like to clarify that not all OLDER people are more mature... i knew lots of people at the age of 20-25 that thinks and acts like a kid! and maybe thats your problem... you dont open up at those whose in your age... coz you think that they are not mature enought right? but how will you know? you cant just judge them by just looking at them... why dont you talk to them...? and you cant juz blame your outfits for not having a friend... and if those people dont like you coz you look *nerdy* or sumthin like that, then they cant be called friends coz they're judging you physically... you dont even have to change yourself to be accepted... real friends will accept you for wut you are not for wut you pretend to be... and last but not the least, communicate with others... do some talkings... you cant just look at them and judge them that you cant talk to them coz they are not "mature enough"... be positive... have more self confidence... and just be yourself ^.~ (and dont set your standards too high we may not be able to reach it ^.~)
2007-01-17 04:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋