One or both parents goes off to work 50+ hours a week and they miss once-in-an-eternity moments with their kids.
Why does this have to persist? Can we ever change this?
2007-01-17 04:16:18 · 9 answers · asked by Zeek 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You can work on career any time in your life. The moments with the little ones won't ever happen again.
2007-01-17 04:17:26 · update #1
dave,
I agree. However, if people saved up alot of money before having their kids and then waited for them to grow up before getting back into or starting another career, it would be better. Of course, that is very difficult for the disadvantaged people.
2007-01-17 04:24:18 · update #2
Smudge,
Good point. However, I'm talking about the sane people.
2007-01-17 04:32:04 · update #3
This is true. My wife and I made a choice to give up material wants so that she could be home with our children when they were young. I also changed my occupation a couple of years later, and now teach high school. The career choice is something, as you said, can be pursued throughout your life. Changing careers may be frightening for some, but missing out on those "once-in-an-eternity moments" is much worse.
2007-01-17 04:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by Ed Wise 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel that things are so different from years ago. Yes I agree with you that Americans are working more now than ever before.
There are many families that are affected by this. It takes two incomes to buy a home today. The homes they are constructing are so large that it is necessary for both parents to work. It's very hard to find any new construction that is geared towards an average size home. Money is what rules in America. Many contractors buy the smaller, older homes and knock them down. They build huge homes on as little land as possible. The cost of housing is out of control.
Parents today fall into the trap that they have to provide their kids with big homes, designer clothes, cell phones, electronics, computers, cable, vacations, and cars. If they are able to do this, they feel they are good parents and are providing for their children in a manner which is expected in America. The problem with this way of thinking is that both parents have to work and this takes away from family life.
Sometimes the little things in life mean more than possessions. TIME spent with family is something you cannot buy and cannot get back. Dinners together, everyone being responsible for the chores around the house and at times doing them together which can create a strong bond. Setting a good example as a parent will allow your children to grow up to be responsible, honest and respectful. Much of this can be accomplished by spending more time together as a family and work a reasonable amount of time to achieve this lifestyle.
One way to change this life style is by not buying into the American dream of today. You do not have to provide everything to your children. Instilling a work ethic and respect for others will do more for your children. It will carry them through life and hopefully they will pass this on to their children. They will enjoy life more and be happy with themselves at the same time and enjoy their own family.
2007-01-17 12:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by lucky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most mothers would be at home with their children if it were at all possible. To days economy requires women to go to work just to make it possible to get by. the cost of health care, mortgages, the fact that transportation drains paychecks along with the cost of school lunches and just going to the grocery store, it takes two paychecks to break even. No women should feel guilty for working. The quality time mothers sped with their children is far more important than the time spent working to keeping them in the things they need.God bless Mothers.
2007-01-17 12:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by bernice l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it sucks but how do u expect to live? U cannot work on a career anytime because u need to earn a living before having children so u can care for them.....I wish it would change but it doesnt seem as though.
2007-01-17 12:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by Hi my name is... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I became a mother of children my mother told me that your children will ask you ,what had you offered to the future of the family so I resigned and made my private job ,had an assistant woman I kept my children close , if my husband got sufficient income I would never let my children to attend work place.
2007-01-17 12:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by Satisfiedmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is we and why does this we want to change it? It's up to individuals if they have engineered circumstances where they have no time w. their kids; it's their kids I might feel sorry for, then again if they are yatch sailing child beaters everyones better off. Take people as individuals not we/they/them.
2007-01-17 12:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It persists because people are sheeple. Why must you work? Why must you have children?
Either quit your job or dont have kids. Problem solved.
Everyone wants to have their cake and eat it too.
2007-01-17 12:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to eat...you learn to miss those things....but that is life...and it has never changed from the farmer 1000 year ago till today...you got to do what you got to do
2007-01-17 12:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by dave m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is sad
2007-01-17 12:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋