She and my father divorced when i was 13 and I think she never dated because she was afraid of what Id think (Im an only child and we're very close.). Ive talked to her about it and i think shes ready to be in love again but shes afraid to get out there and try. Now that im away at college I worry about her being alone all the time and Id like to help her in finding a companion to spend her later years with. oh and the whole idea of internet dating scares her. any advice would be appreciated.
2007-01-17 04:14:41 · 12 answers · asked by screamosweetie12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was in the same spot your mom is. I did try Internet dating and met Mr. Wonderful. HOWEVER...not everyone needs or wants another person in their life. I did, she may not. If she does, she might try something like Match.com there are others like Eharmony.com that advertise Christian ethics etc. It is very difficult to find someone at this age, with interests that compliment her own. Get on the site with her to get her going. Have some fun setting up her profile etc. Take a good picture of her for the site. Let her know that you approve of her moving on. That might relax her, it isn't scary after you start. Good luck to both of you!
2007-01-17 04:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by Bev 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Click on my avatar, and go to some of those questions that I have written about dating and how to find great guys.... You're a sweetie to be interested that your mom find a nice guy.... There is nothing nicer than to be with a man you can admire and adore.... I've talked about internet dating on some of these questions.... and tell your mom, my husband and I found each other with personal ads before it was the thing to do (1984 ). When I was again single, I found the man I am with now with Yahoo Personals. There are a few tricks, if you don't find what you want, write me.....There IS a nice guy out there who would love to meet her.....
2007-01-17 12:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her on this singles and dating board and then give her my email address :-) Just kidding. If I could talk to her and see her it might not be a kidding matter. I'm 50 and I haven't been on a date in over 3 years (mainly cause it's the way I want it) but I'm up for some new things.
If you could get her on this board, it might help nudge her in the right direction and it will show her you care about her. Get her involved in things where she'll meet people like bingo or something like that.
2007-01-17 12:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be supportive and explain to her that you would really like to see her happy, and if she is ready to date then you are all for it. Do not, try and set her up with anyone, that will only make her feel obligated to date the people that you choose for her. I had the same experience with my dad, only I choose to set him up with people that I thought he might have same interests with. What a disaster each and every time. I finally told him that he deserves to be happy and I am all for him dating. Just make sure you pay attention because your mother may be happy with the way things are, and if she is happy alone, then do not push the situation.
2007-01-17 12:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by wyllow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not active in Church, try to get her involved there. She will meet other singles. Find a single man that you think she would like and set up a casual evening out to dinner and a movie with you, a date, the other man and your Mom. Make it seem like just a group of friends going out.
2007-01-17 12:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by roncarolhillsstupid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's involved with life, and people, she will meet someone to strike her fancy. She simply hasnt stumbled over anyone yet. The key is acitivity in whatever she enjoys for herself. Any kind of group functions that appeals to her. Life has a way of taking form when one is outgoing and involved.
2007-01-17 12:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget suggesting she date but encourage her to get involved with something she really likes. When she starts feeling better about herself she'll start accepting her "new" identity. Dating will come the usual way. One has to feel they are interesting and have something to offer. Right now she feels like all she is is a mommy.
2007-01-17 12:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by passion for art 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time you are home, go out with her, but be sure to go someplace that will have guys her age or close to it, not a hip-hop club. Get her all dolled up before you go and just go have fun. Once she experiences the thrill of attention from guys again, I think the rest will take care of itself. Don't even tell her that you are going out for her, just tell her you want her to go out with you.
2007-01-17 12:53:35 · answer #8 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation with my mom but she totally refuses to date. I think you should get your mom to go to single functions or you could place an ad on myspace and be the one to check it and see who wants to be your mom's friend. Also there is always the local singles ad in the newspapers.
2007-01-17 12:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by steve and angie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...she can start slow by making friends. in my opinion, the number one reason why relationships fail and why the divorce rate is so high is because people don't take the time to get to know one another. i have put many guys off because i choose to get to know them first as friends before taking it to another step where as they were ready to meet then get married. concentrate on making friends. don't look for love...it will find you (or her in this case).
2007-01-17 12:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋