if you been abused is it likely they'll abuse who ever thier with like if he got with another women i mean remarry or live with some one
2007-01-17 04:13:51 · 22 answers · asked by sweetgranny06 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, if they do it once they will do it again.believeme i know. best to get out as soon as possible. they feel they have to control every situation,and that is their only way of doing it.
2007-01-17 04:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat...once an abuser...always within that same relationship. Not a proven fact but statistically sound enough to be close enough. The abuser MUST seek professional help to curb the tendencies.
My mother married a man who use to beat the holy hell out of her, they divorced. Mom years later married a man (my father) and they are very happy and no abuse. Her first husband later married a very nice lady named Sandy. Apparently they went to marital counseling and fortunately has never has laid a hand on her. My mother has never truly spoken badly of her first husband, only that they were not a good match for each others temperaments.
2007-01-17 04:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you that the rate for an abuser changing his ways is a very small percent. I actually had a chance to meet someone who used to be abusive to his wife but changed. He was one of the only men I have ever met that admitted to what he put his wife through and really made a change. It doesn't happen overnight. Its like being an alcoholic. Its something you have to work against everyday (anger) I do know statistically the best resource we have to reform an abuser? Prison. last time i checked the rehabilitation rate for men going to prison for beating their signifigant other was around 30%
2007-01-17 05:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Laceyfromcali 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally this is true; but sometimes the label is attached prematurely or unjustly.
I am going to give you a hypothetical situation and lets see where your mind jumps then I am going to tell you what the full sitaution was.
You walk into a room after hearing yelling and screaming and see a man violently grab a womans arm and slap her face. What do you think has just happened?
The situation above is the end result of the woman being hysterical about something that has just happened and she physically attacked the man. They are happily married and have been for 10 years and this was his only defense to bring her back to reality.
The above situation is fictional, but shows how quickly a label can be attached to someone for something they did that was completely innocent but only viewed after the provoking incident occurred.
If you are considering dating someone who has been labeled as abusive be cautious to avoid being a statistic of domestic violence.
2007-01-17 04:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lance D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way he won't be an abuser anymore is if he has taken a really good look at himself and got the help he needs to change his ways.
2007-01-17 04:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
once an abuser always an abuser is so true. it doesn't matter who he is with he has to be in control. he has to be the only one in your life and if he can not get what he wants then you become the target of the day . and before you know it you are his and only his. you can not talk to you friends, your mom ,your dad, your sister or your brother. before you know what has happen there is no one you can be around without him. when he goes to work you are locked in the house or worse. this can leader to death, your death.
2007-01-17 04:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible for anyone to change, however, I believe that there is an invisible line that you just do not cross. Once you cross it, it just gets easier and easier. And if the other person just sits back and allows it to happen then they are aware that they can get away with it. If you find yourself in this sort of situation, do not put up with it. You do not deserve it and if you let it slide even one time ,it is likely to will continue.
2007-01-17 04:22:37 · answer #7 · answered by wyllow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That could be true with some, be research has proven it incorrect. However, if he was an abuser in the past, you better keep your guards up. Also, inform him that abusive behavior WILL NOT be tolerated in any form. Nip in the bud before it happens!
2007-01-17 04:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by bgsfnstldy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistically, the abuse will continue. However, counseling would help stop the pattern. Even so, the tendency will always be there.
2007-01-17 04:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, abouse will continue from one relationship ito the next. the abuser doesn't change unless he or she wants to. one person cannot change another. it must come from w/in.
talk therapy is good, but only if the abuser really wants the help.
2007-01-17 05:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
typically yea it does mean that...once they abuse someone and realize that they can get away with it, then they'll do it again. sometimes they do it no matter what bc it gives them a power thrill...so if ur with someone who abused another girl and is now with you, i say get out now before he hurts you: emotionally or physically. believe me, its not worth it....i know from experience.
2007-01-17 04:19:15 · answer #11 · answered by XxForever&EverxX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋