a while back i went to jail for 5 months.and while i was locked up my wife told me she had a job that paid really good $$. at first she didnt wanna tell me what kind of job is was but i kinda knew what she was up too, finally i got to admit to me what kind of job she had.she told me she was working as an female escort.i hated the fact that she had that job, so i told her i wouldnt get mad if she told me about her job.at first she was working for an escort agency, now she doing it by her self, booking apointments and go to calls by herself.and the only reason she got this job was to bond me out now that im out she doesnt want to quit what she is doing.shes allways on the internet placing ads about herself. i drove her to her calls a couple of timesi thought i could handle it , but now i cant..im allways thinking what she doing with her clients.she tells that theres no sex at all jus all nude dances. i told her that dont want her doing this and that i hate it so much but she dont care
2007-01-17 04:12:51 · 13 answers · asked by rock1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you go with her all the time to make sure she is safe then enjoy the money.
2007-01-17 04:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are in a position to complain about her chosen
job. After all, you got thrown into jail, in the first place for doing something wrong. You couldn't support her while you were in jail.
My guess is that you don't have a job, now, either, to support her.
I also figure that she is making money the only way she can.
Most likely, she doesn't have the education it takes to get a really good paying regular job. Working for minimum wage in a restaurant or store somewhere won't pay all a normal couple's
bills. Unless more than 1 person works.
My suggestion is that you go out and get a job to help pay the bills. Then, after you get some paychecks coming in, sit down and calmly discuss her switching jobs to something else.
My guess is that she really doesn't enjoy what she's doing.
It's probably her only option, as she sees it.
2007-01-17 05:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a private stripper or Call girl! This is a dangerous occupation. Does she have a body guard when she goes on these outings? Because things could get out of hand very quickly and she could be in danger. Try to find a good job and start being THE MAN. take charge and maybe she will feel like she doesn't have to pull in the money. Good luck
2007-01-17 04:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She is almost certainly lying. Private escorts are practically always hookers who have sex with their clients.
Why don't you enlist the help of a friend (that she doesn't know) to answer her ad? See what she says. Give him some money to "buy" her. See if she's willing to "go further".
Don't blame your friend for getting a woody when your wife dances for him, but just when she says OK to sex that's when I think it's time to leap out of the closet and inform your wife of your upcoming divorce.
2007-01-17 04:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my god you opened a can of worms participating in this in the first place. How can you ever have an ounce of respect for her? Let a lone ever want to sleep with her? Find a new.
2007-01-17 04:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of why she started doing it, if you are not able to deal with her profession and she will not stop, tell her that, and if she is not willing to quit, you want a divorce. Chances are, she is liking the attention, the life she is pretending to live while she is doing it and it is like a narcotic that she is addicted to. I am willing to bet that she is not going to change, but you need to put your foot down and give her the choice.
2007-01-17 04:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
And why should she. She can do as she pleases. She is probably thinking of when you go back in (since you are bonded and still await court).
2007-01-17 04:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're not bringing home any bacon, can you really complain? If you are, express ur concern to her. Come up with ways to compromise so that both of you are happy.
2007-01-17 04:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by bgsfnstldy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not a very Healthy environment. Is it the money she's after? or the ego boost? Maybe therapy might be good for both of you.
2007-01-17 04:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, if you don't like what she does for a living then there is nothign that you can do about it. she is making money for herself now. taking care of herself. if you can't handle it then you need to split up from her. it's a simple decision.
2007-01-17 04:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋