My husband wants a divorce for many reasons. This is not what I want. I just need some advice as to what I need to do to ease the pain of this situation, things that I should do to better deal, the weight of this pain is almost unbearable and I am having a very hard time seeing the future as positive right now.
2007-01-17 04:12:18 · 9 answers · asked by wyllow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well...i dont' know all the details...but you cannot make a man do something that he doesn't want to do. if he wants a divorce..then he will end up getting one (regardless of what you say). i'm not trying to be mean here...but...what you can try to do to ease the pain of the situation is to seek some counseling. maybe your employer (if you have a job) has some counseling information that you can look into. get some activities. start to live life for yourself and not for him. don't want for him to come around. regain your sense of independence and your sense of self-identity. hang out with your friends. look into some activities that you may be interested in. but most of all...hire a lawyer. cause your husband may have already gotten one at this point. don't want for him. you need to live for you now.
2007-01-17 04:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is life after divorce and it's better for many. Accepting what we are dealt in life is the hardest part of it all. Join a support group for separated /divorced. But remember one thing, once your getting divorced get a lawyer and your (ex) is no longer your friend. Once the divorce is over and done with you may still be friends then, but until then be professional and to the point and don't let your emotions effect the outcome of the rest of your life by not taking care of number one; you!
best of luck. ps. join up at the local recreation center for volley ball or do things to be fit and keep busy :)
2007-01-17 12:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by yawhosucs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my wife are going through the same thing..she's done me wrong, and is confused about what we should do, and although divorce seems like the best thing, sometimes it feels wrong to just part like that. I guess it depends on your reasons, and you have to realize that if both of you are unhappy, you gotta let each other go, or get help.......but, sometimes the best lesson learned begins with you. Good luck, and if you need a friend, get in touch with me, ok!
2007-01-17 12:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that all depends on your outlook. Divorce isnt always bad sometimes it is for the better of your life. Just look at it as a way to start over and know what not to do next time.()
2007-01-17 12:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by Saint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not much you can do but learn to accept that your husband wants a divorce. Seek counseling to help you with the pain.
2007-01-17 12:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are his reasons valid? He may be doing you a favor. Since he wants the divorce, then HE should leave, NOT YOU.
Speak to a good divroce attny. Make your wishes known to your attny. Be sure that you arent left without a roof over your head, and financial support for you and your children, if you have any.
2007-01-17 12:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start thinking about why you want to stay married to someone who doesn't want to be married to you. Life does go on after divorce and it could be quite wonderful. All possibilities lie ahead, some good some bad, but living with someone who doesn't want to be there will be all bad.
2007-01-17 12:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by passion for art 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a lawyer and a therapist. Good luck.
2007-01-17 12:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need some legal advice.......
2007-01-17 12:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋