We have been together for almost 2 years! Now I'm pregnant he doesn't want to talk or see me! I don't know how I am going to do this all alone but I know I can! Do you think he will come around?
2007-01-17 04:05:19 · 42 answers · asked by MCB 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He is almost 35 years old and has a 5 year old daughter with his ex wife.....He pushed himself away from her too when she was pregnant. I am only 20.
2007-01-24 03:35:02 · update #1
He does support his daughter and spends time with her.
2007-01-25 03:47:22 · update #2
This is terrible, it sounds to me like the man is a coward 100%. i Think that you are better off without them if this is the strength of him. I mean none of us know that its going to last. I have been with my partner 3 years and dont know for sure if we will last, this isnt due to pregnancy, but everything.
I would definately give your man a chance to think things through, men deal with things soooooooo differently from women, he is more than likley sitting somewhere feeling sorry for himself, instead of thinking it thru rationally and thinking of the pros and cons.
I think you should give him space but at the same time do your own thing for you and the baby, if you have family its a bonus, but there are millions of single mothers out there who have done a superb job, inc mine.
I wish you all the best and hope that you dont just take the joker back due to the baby.
Good Luck and Stay Strong
2007-01-23 02:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by carrienicholson23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sure you already know the answer to this question! Was he there for his 5 year old child? I definately wouldn't let this stress you out and cause problems for you throughout your pregnancy. Your child needs 1 good parent. Just remember its his loss, file for child support everyman hates being hit in the wallet. So do it for the child, then enjoy being a mom and it is possible to raise a child on your own. But I am sure you will meet someone else in time that will accept you with child and you will be much better off, you will look back and say thank you for leaving we are better off. Just give it time. Keep Happy Thoughts for you and your baby, it will get better. Good Luck! Even if he comes back be the bigger person and don't take him back, let him be a part of his childs life but find a younger nicer man who will be there for you when you need him. Chin Up!
2007-01-25 03:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just doing what guys with no b@lls do. Every girl I've ever known who's gotten pregnant the baby's daddy bailed out at one time or another, sometimes they come back. It's happend to me twice. I'm 8 wks pregnant and I know what you're going thru. He will come back when you have the baby. As soon as you can file for child support after the baby is born because it can take years to get if he runs from his responsibility. If you are on public assistance this is easier to do, your case worker can help out in this. Find other moms to talk to who don't have a baby daddy around, that helped me out. You can email me if you want to at angel.face06@yahoo.com . I went thru this mess at 17 and now again 10 yrs later.
2007-01-21 16:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by goturanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so sorry. My husband bailed on me a week before our 2nd baby was born (emotionally he bailed alot earlier in the pregnancy). They are selfish pigs. I always thought I was a weakish person. But I have learnt how strong I am and u will too. You can get through this.
He could be just scared and come round but I wouldn't plan things around him. Focus on the wonderful thing you are going through and the happy times you and you'll child will have, it sounds abit harsh but it is honestly the only way to keep going at times. There was times I really felt I couldn't get through and times I felt so angry, but you surprise yourself that you do. Three years on I am happier than I was when I was with him, have no money but happier, and I realize things are for the best.
Don't forget to get child support on to him even if he agrees to sort it between the two of you, some men have a habit of lying. And take up any offers of help. Wish you well, good luck.
2007-01-22 10:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by tangerine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 17 when i got preg. with my first child .My boyfriend and i were going together for 2 years also. We are now married and have another baby also .If your boyfriend was so scared to be a daddy he shouldnt have been having sex .Dont ever think you cant do it on your own , you do not need a man to take care of you or your baby . Having a baby inside you and feeling it grow and kick around is the best feeling in the world ,knowing that you had a part in making a little life . he will be the one missing out .i wouldnt trade anything n the world for my kids and wouldnt change my age of having them .Babies are a blessing so good luck and you can do it on your own
2007-01-21 12:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by whitney82101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably just a little worried that he is not in the financial security to raise a baby. He is most likely not going to return. Many guys do this, so do not feel alone. You should find out what he's going to do, and if he's not coming back maybe you should consider getting another boyfriend. Not just because it will help you cope with this change, but because he will be there to help you raise the baby, and it will have a caring father figure.
2007-01-21 04:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by pleasehelp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That should have been a red flag for you to not get involved with this loser! If you were attracted to him then maybe you should have realized that he has a child that he isn't supporting so why would he support yours? There are some men out there that can't live up to their responsibilty and they don't want to grow up. Youcan do this on your own! You don't need him anymore! It takes two to tango but there are thousands of women out there that are going through what you are or have been there! What you should be asking is, "Are there any single moms out there who can give me advice?" We don't know why he left you because we don't know him, fortunatley for us, and instead you should be asking questions that will help you through this difficult time. Think about taking care of number 1 which is you right now. You have to be the responsible one for your baby's sake. Don't stress out about this loser because you need every ounce of energy to keep healthy and deliver a beautiful bundle of joy into the world. If you need any help, email me at crystalize_27@yahoo.com. I will be there for you...help you in any way I can. Be strong and take care!
2007-01-24 10:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry that is awful. Start preparing to be a single parent cause there is no telling if he will come around.
Prepare to file for child support (even if u dont feel u want his money,put it away for the child)
A lot of time men get scared, this is no excuse because women get scared too. So I cant tell u if he will come around but i sure hope so....
2007-01-17 04:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by Hi my name is... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may or may not. Obviously he is scared of the responsiblity or maybe scared of babies. He might have been abused some way when he was little. You never know unless he tells you. You doing this alone definitely should find a strong support group to help you out, because it is extremely hard to raise a child and it is also a blessing.
2007-01-25 03:32:22 · answer #9 · answered by dragonflyprincess24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you poor thing. i have been in this situation also and i know how crazy and mixed up you are feeling right now. im sure you are not only scared but angry and sad too. one minute you just want him there then the next you wish you could rip off his penis am i correct? well its really hard to give advice for something like this because there is no possible way for you to just force the guy to be a man like im sure you want to. the most you can do is just take care of yourself and your baby. try not to think about him although i know thats hard with his baby living in you. whatever you do try to be mature, i know you probably want to call him and scream and burn his stuff or whatever but you have to show that you are a responsible adult, then hopefully he will see that he is missing out on a wonderful woman and child. i know that really doesnt help but it is the best i can do. email me if you need to talk!
2007-01-24 12:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by n&z-mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋