What do you do when you regret? Whether is moving somewhere, doing something, or making certain life choices. What happens when regret kicks in afterwards and how do you cope with it and move on to better the situation you're regreting.
Seems so hard, especially when you're in it. I recently just moved back to my hometown with my husband and things are not going as planned, I regret it everyday of my life and wish I could go back because we were happier. I want to move on and look forward to things getting better, but it gets to me every da of my life.
2007-01-17 04:02:04 · 5 answers · asked by Cookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The thing I think you're searching for is the beginning of how you started making bad decisions. Work hard to get to the root of what happened and what needs to change. Regret is negative because it's impossible to undo what you've done by going back in time. Rather learning from your mistakes is always a good use of time.
Learning from your mistakes: positive reinforcement
regret: negative reinforcement
With this positive spirit, you need to talk to your husband about what you're feeling and go from there. He wants you to be happy. You want him to be happy. What's the plan while you're both in your hometown? What's your goal in being there? How do you both know you've reached that goal? What can it be time to move on from there? Validate his side of the WHY you both are there. Can't say more based on the info you've given except to get into a positive mindset. We all have problems. How we deal with them is what it's all about....good luck...
2007-01-17 04:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by mickeymouse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You fix it! O.k., so it was a mistake to move. So cut your loses now , before they get larger, and move back or move on. Surely your husband can also feel the strain. Talk to him, tell him how you feel. If you have to, go without him, and ask him to join you. Explain what you are feeling and how afraid you are of losing him. It's only a mistake if you don't fix it. Sure, it will be hard to move again but, which would be harder..the move? or a split..maybe for good? Take ALL the blame if you have to, but if you really feel strongly about this then you must act on it. OR Have you given it a fair chance to work? With a positive mind set, that is? If you can't change what is bothering you, then you must change the way YOU THINK about it. Accept it, a decide to like it. Yes, it can be done, but only with a positive mind. When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change. What is it you really want? What is really happening here? Whose problem is it, who does it effect the most? If it is you, then solve it in the best way you can, but be sure to think it through to the end...'If I do this..then ????will happen or if I take this route, ????will happen.If it isn't your problem, offer your help in solving it. What has been tried? I wish you luck, but regret,like guilt, will give you something to do...like a rocking chair, but, it wont get you anywhere
2007-01-17 04:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly you should get better from it, because it truly is existence we make mistakes. My mistake or my consistent mistake is, there is this guy my cousin once beloved 3 years in the past and he in no way beloved her back. in any case we both began liking one yet another when we met 3 years in the past and spent it sluggish at the same time, and gosh he's outstanding in each way. besides my cousin were given so emotionally distraught on the idea human beings being at the same time i determined now to not see him anymore. And it truly is puzzling because we nonetheless have thoughts for an added, yet my cousin nonetheless talks about him because the affection of her existence. My experience sorry about is finding out now to not see him back, because I omit him and he tells me continually how a lot he misses me too.
2016-11-24 23:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use congitive thinking. You can't change the past, you can't tell the future. You can only live for today.
Find something that interests you, and jump in. It's even better if you can get your hubby involved too.
2007-01-17 04:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by Carol S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just don't ever regret anything that made you smile
2007-01-17 05:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by browneyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋