my wife cheated?

Question

she screwed someone else and its tearing me up should i do the same to feel better?

Answer 1

You will not feel better. Just forgive her. This time and tell her this better not happen again.

Answer 2

yeah you should but not this year. Too much heat right now. She destroyed something precious you all had. You got kids probably (it's why you haven't given up). You sound like a good guy, you could move on sucessfully with someone else but don't , stay with your kids and your wife it is the best option. If your relationship survives a year, and when you get a golden opportunity from another woman a year or more in the future and you know you can get away with it, take it and don't feel guilty at all. And don't get caught or confess. I know nearly exactly how you feel, it's true that the only thing that can fix your ego is another woman's love. But don't let the other woman's love destroy your family. Be patient and out-clever your clever wife. And if you do get caught or confess, it's an imperfect marriage anyway. A twisted action breeds a twisted reaction.

Answer 3

I've been there and believe me best thing is to leave because you will never have that trust for her in the same way you did before. It will always be on your mind just tearing your heart apart. I thought about getting him back by cheating too, but I could never go through with it and I'm glad I could never bring myself to sink so low as to do that because two wrongs will not make it right better. You cheating will only make you feel worse. Save yourself from more heartbreak and get out while you can cause if she cheated now, believe me she will again and she just might have done it more times then you know.

Answer 4

you have gotta want to know why
maybe that would open a door for you as you probably feel caged
she looked for something she didnt have from you
if it was pure recreation than she needs help
honestly some marriages come closer from this
Its not a deadly disease but find out what she was seeking
and get a counselor
and communicate
and if she isn't willing
than let her go her own way and get a good attorney
or you'll get screwed in another way
You wouldnt question cheating yourself if you hadn't had some guilt already
a promise is a promise
cut and dry
You need to find out why she broke on her part of the deal
You didn't say if kids were involved
Cause thats a whole nother ball game
an open dialogue is the best approach
show her this
maybe it will help
hope
God eases your pain and clears your insight
Good Luck

Answer 5

No, dont. Getting even will establish a precident in your relationship forever.

Its tearing you up which is a sign that you care at least. Let her know that, and show you are not letting what happened become an excuse for you to play around.

If you want to continue with her then tell her so. Remember that forgiveness is forever. Let her know you are hurt though.

Now the bad news : Why did she play around? Is there anything you might have been doing to prevent it?

Get some professional advice and talk.

Good luck. It hurts but its not always the end.

Answer 6

My husband cheated on me after five years of marriage. I wanted to make the marriage work, and vowed to do anything in my power to save it. Unfortunately, he decided he wanted to start a new life with this girl (10 years younger than him). This made my decision easy. I have since taken our son and moved into my own place. I don't think I could ever trust him again, even if we could salvage the marriage. That one thought of him screwing another woman would always be in my head, like a permanent scar. Most people do not change, and I am just waiting for it to happen to his new girlfriend.

Answer 7

Hello No! Do you think screwing someoneelse would make you feel better?No!Would it change the fact that your wife screwed someoneelse? No!If you do that you would just be adding pain to injury coz both of you would never trust eachother anymore.Yes she did wrong but can two wrongs make a right?No again! Just relax and ask her maybe she drank to much and had to misbehave,Maybe she was hurt by something you did and decided to bang someone.Whatever the reason she has is not right for your wife to do that but the right thing to do is to forgive her and love her again.The fact that you can forgive her would be a whip to her conscience and trust me, she would never do that again.Try forgiving, trusting again and loving her completely again. DIALOGUE!!!!!is the answer not REVENGE

Answer 8

you have 2 options:

1)try and salvage your marriage and see if counseling or some other form marriage help program will work.

2)leave your wife for what she has done and move on with your life.

we dont live in a time where we live by and eye for an eye. that is an archaic and childish method of trying to accomplish anything.

Answer 9

First it doesn't work that way... you won't feel better. Second, don't corrupt yourself - bring yourself to her level...

It's over anyway, the trust is broken and once broken cannot be replaced. And the anger will grow and will tear you apart after a time....

It is time to move on...

Answer 10

Just because she did it, it does not mean that you should. You have every right to be angry and upset. But you need to talk things out with your wife. There has to be a reason why she felt that she needed to cheat. Talk things out. Don't hold your anger in and don't do something that you will regret later.

Answer 11

Of course it's tearing you up. She betrayed a sacred trust. If you had a good relationship going in, give her one more chance. If things were bad, drop her and move on. I know it's hard to do, but you need some dignity.