Ok, just moved out of my cousin's house, but when I was living with her, her boyfriend used to try to have sex with me and I caught him peeking through my door when everyone else in the house was sleep. He also went as far as to making a hole in the bathroom wall(which is right next to my room) so he could watch me while he was in the bathtub, which I tried to cover up numerous times. I know that I should have told her as soon as he tried the first time, but she is the type of person that thinks everyone wants her man and it is vice versa and I don't think that she would have believed me and it would have been awkward living under that type of situation with someone who thinks that they are always right. Now that I have moved out I don't have anything to lose, so should I tell her?
2007-01-17 03:44:18 · 31 answers · asked by TEE 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
yep you should to free your conscious, but honestly your cousin sounds like a friend of mine: you can't tell them anything so why waste your breathe. I think you should analyze what is more important to you, her being with that loser, or losing her as a cousin. I think she is going to do what my freind does, blame everyone else and still keep the loser, and therefore let them be so I wouldn't. You know you never provoked him, nor gave in to his persistence, so there is nothing you did. Telling her is going to cause drama, and she might not talk to you anymore, but if its going to make you feel better to tell her than do, but if its make no difference in regards to how you feel then don't open your mouth. I would stop going around her if he is there, and if she ask why then that is when you tell her. You tell her I am not hanging out with you when he is around because I dont' like the passes he give me, and I never tell you bcuz you think everyone wants him. I didn't want you mad at me therefore I left my mouth close and handled the situation this way because it made me feel better.
2007-01-17 03:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont bother she wont believe you if that is how she is. Let her end up hating someone else or the guy when she catches him. If she was not the type of person to get mad at other women bec she thinks they want him then I would say tell her but if you are out and dont have to be near him then let it go. I do think if she plans of marrying this guy then you should think about telling her but if hes just a BF then he could go and you will still have your cousin :)
2007-01-17 04:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her if she has kids. But if you feel like she won't believe you and think you want her perverted man let her find out on her own. He might lie and say that you hit on him or something and that you are just saying that to get even with him.
2007-01-17 03:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to continue to have a relationship with your cousin then tell her. If you were to discuss this with her she will accuse you of encouraging him and be angry with you. If you don't care whether she still has anything to do with you then let her know. I just pray to God that she doesn't have any children. This guy sounds like bad news be glad you moved out.
2007-01-17 03:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she's still with the guy, then definately, she needs to be told. It'll be easier for her to just move on now than it'd be for her to find out ON HER OWN months or years from now. That's definately NOT the kinda guy you want for the long term.
2007-01-17 03:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jersey Giant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and it's hard. I told her about her man and she thought I wanted him until she found out that he was trying to talk to most of her friends. They are still together and me and my cousin are cool. So just tell her and see how she reacts!
2007-01-17 03:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell Her. Show her the holes in the wall. And if she doesn't believe you - try and set him up and then watch her come crawling back to you.
2007-01-17 03:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by onceaniannuzzi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She should know. This guy sounds like someone she should NOT be living with. Of course, she's still not likely to believe you, and it will probably ruin your relationship with her, but if you think her safety (or someone else's) is at stake, you must tell her.
2007-01-17 03:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell her. And let her know you absolutely have had no interest whatsoever in her man. How she reacts is clearly up to her. But she should at least know about her boyfriend's behavior.
2007-01-17 03:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by I ♥ 2 ♥ U BABY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're going to have to be blunt to her. If that doesn't work then just hope for the best. You can only help her so much.
2016-05-24 00:11:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋