I am love with someone other than my spouse. I feel he is my soulmate and I want to lick his wounds and stroke his large creative ego. The passion he inspires in me is awesome. This is all very odd for me since I have lived a very status quo lifestyle for many many years. I don't want to miss this opportunity to experience a deep passion and I am a responsible person. Advice needed.
2007-01-17 03:43:06 · 11 answers · asked by osbourne_again 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm with "Premo Mom". You need to listen to her.
If you are a responsible person, you need to reign yourself in on this one. What seems like such a great idea right now may dry up like a poisoned flower later on.
The grass is always greener on the other side but let me tell you... it browns up pretty damned fast as soon as you jump the fence.
But you need to tell us all more about your current situation. Are there kids and how old are they and you're married now, right? How long have you been married and how is the marriage?
All I can do at this point is tell you to use a lot of caution. You might be poised to totally screw up your life for nothing long term. The old saying applies, "Sometimes the devil you know is better than the devil you don't know". And believe me, you don't know this devil.
And as for the soulmate part of this, I think that we all have many soul mates and you can't jump ship every time you meet one of them.
Be careful and don't f--k up your life. Yes, I think you're having a mid-life crisis. I'm with "Premo Mom" on this. Who needs a large ego that needs stroking and who needs a wounded person? I don't get it.
2007-01-17 04:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it sounds like you are having some type of midlife crisis. Get a hold of yourself and get this man out of your mind. It's alright to have fantasies but they don't have to become true. If nothing is wrong with your marriage stay in it and be happy. The grass always looks greener on the other side but however it never is.
2007-01-17 03:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-01-28 12:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the same situation i was in but i cannot be with him and i learned to except that. I always think of him, we were intimate once and i just have that in my mind 24/7 but the reality is we cannot be together anymore, it's sad. I had always been faithful except for that one time. Good Luck in what you do. We are still friends, we see each other in family events, he's a friend of the family.
2007-01-17 03:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by bluemist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who married his high school sweetheart. Thirty years and four kids later he went through almost the same thing. Got a horrible divorce (very nasty, kids were involved). he hooked up with the young male hottie and promptly got his feelings hurt, experimented around with women, men, whoever and whatever. Long story short... three years later he went crawling back to the wife with his tail between his legs. Don't do anything drastic. Talk to her about your feelings. maybe she will give you "permission" to explore them.
2007-01-17 03:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the very first answer.
Passion is not worth giving up a lifetime of committment for. At the end, you'll be left with nothing.
2007-01-17 03:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are nuts to even consider giving up all you have for someone who needs his wounds licked and has a large ego that needs stroking. Good luck with this one. You are probably just another notch on his bedpost.
2007-01-17 03:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you need to remember your married.If you dont want to be with your husband than you should have never married him.There is no such thing as a mid life crisis,thats just a lame brain excuse someone came up with to try and justify screwing around on their spouse.
2007-01-17 03:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by Chi-Chi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a mid life crisis. However, this couldnt have come about if you had been happily married. Think long and hard on this, and PLEASE do NOT throw your life away.
2007-01-17 03:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes to the crisis.I cant tell you what to do.Your already cheating emotionally if not physically.Its all about you so go ahead be a statistic.
2007-01-17 03:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by P.Bunyun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋