Gals no matter what your hopes and dreams are?

Question

in an time and age where the saying "bros before hoes" is rampant among young guys over half of the women live without an hubby in America and more and more men realize that they are better off to not marry EVER, a lot of women are and will stay very very lonely, especially when their looks will start to fade. How do you feel about it ? Do you think womens liberation was worth it or do you whish you could turn the clock back 50 years to when there was a groom for every bride ?

Wedy I dont see men asking why men are so mean to each other. Of course there might be men who would prefer the old ways, but lets face it, thesedays a man can pick between beeing lonely and beeing lonely after a ruinous divorce or beeing caught in a nag marriage, where divorce strikes as soon as he starts talking back or tries to limit her shopping sprees.

Answer 1

You know, I've actually given this a lot of thought. While I enjoy the freedom and rights that I have as a liberated woman of the 21st century, I often have to stop and ask myself if I'm really getting a better deal. 50 years ago, I probably would be married and on my third pregnancy by now, since I'm 26. Instead, I'm trying to climb up a career ladder and living with my boyfriend of 4 years, who I sometimes don't think will EVER propose to me. Maybe we have too many options for how to live our lives these days. Don't get me wrong- I'm completely satisfied with my life and my job, and I love my boyfriend to death, but there are days I wish I could be home, putting a roast in the oven and reading a story to kids instead of here at work, typing and filing and answering phones. But I have hope for the future- I think the institution of marriage is still very much alive and women are really able to have it all these days.

Answer 2

First of all, I'm not a "Gal" ----I think she might be from the backwoods. Secondly, I'm a multi-degreed, independent single female ON PURPOSE....it's so much simpler to be single. Who wants a man mired in the expectation that I have to do all the cooking, cleaning and laundry for him even though we both work 10 hour days? Not many women, that much I can tell you. I notice you say the men realize they are better off never to marry but that women in the same predicament (according to you) "will stay very lonely" ---hmm, interesting that you don't say the men are lonely either.....well, all I can say is, the world has changed, every adult in the household has to work, and this means that our way of living has to change as well. Marriage is not the partnership it once was where the man was the head of the house, it's now equal responsibility for the man and the woman, and along with this economic change has to come social change.

Answer 3

If anything, I think women are LESS lonely today than they were 50 years ago. Having a husband does not necessarily mean having a companion. 50 yrs ago, a husband was a provider and a wife was a servant/whore/mother. This arrangement does not offer true companionship or comfort. Marriage was very much a mandate, while today it's more of a choice.

As women have found other opportunities and independence, we are no longer obligated to put up with crap from an uncaring husband. I thinks it's human nature (not just female) to yearn for companionship. But this is not necessarily found in marriage, so I don't think shying away from marriage is necessarily a male tendency. If anything, I'd think marriage in the 21st century is easier on a man. He no longer has the full burden of providing for a family and actually has a chance of fullfilling his own emotional needs (don't deny that you have them. They make you MORE of a man, not less.)

Answer 4

I saw this on the news last night!! It scares me to think that so many women are single. I have grown up with the dream to be married. These women put work before relationships and I have always thought husband before job (ofcourse I will work but family definitely comes first). I would move anywhere or do anything for them. I wouldn't necessarily go back 50 years, however, I think the world would be happier with a groom for every bride. Haha. :)

Answer 5

Look,you probably dont see the bad side of those non liberated women's lives 50 years ago...Not that they were just lonely but way more lonely than today's girls and women...Just look on fact that they would be home all day(their husband is god knows where) ,take care of children and house whole their life...Most of them had only few friends cause how can you expect to have more if you dont have time to get out of the house?
I dont say its bad to have a nice loving family and child and all that,but that is what lots of people have today too...Much liberated and better then before...Cause now man can take care of some housework too...Its lots better now...

Only thing that would make me go back in past are those nice dresses(we now only wear for wedding day,or not then either) women wore and balls where they danced traditional dances...:D

Answer 6

I think men are refusing to understand that women will never go back to the past- and loneliness is far easier to deal with than lack of freedom. Also if half of the women are without a 'hubby' does that mean the men are with 'hubby'? I don't get that logic of women being lonely without mention of men also being lonely.

Answer 7

Not all lady are like that. However, how approximately looking to strike up a talk with humans who type of recognise you (like coworkers, friends at tuition, peers of peers, and so forth.). It would now not always be you however the challenge wherein you are doing it in that's the crisis. I recognise whilst I pass to a espresso store, I'm now not watching to get picked up, it is my time to learn/do paintings/and so forth. I was very shy as good so I certainly think your soreness. Just consider the entire mighty traits that you just own and be optimistic in that. You recognise you've plenty to present that targeted woman so reminding your self of this may deliver you the boldness you wish to have. Good good fortune! :)

Answer 8

You need to get off the rocking horse and grow up, bro. You honestly think women actually need a man to tell them what to do, what to wear, what to cook, what to eat, where to work, how much money to bring in so that he doesn't have to work?! You honestly believe that crap?
You honestly believe that women are lonely because men want to be with other men? Honey, lets face it. If those mens want to be with other mens, then huh, let 'em.
You have to face up to the fact that if it wasn't for the womenfolk who wore their fingers off in the washtub to get money, most men wouldn't have been freed from slavery. Understand? It is historical fact that that is how most men got free, because otherwise, they'd just stay in it. Yep, that's right. It was the WOMEN who bought the mens' freedom and they did with their own ingenuity and sweat. And all you mens do is stand around today and point fingers like you know what is going on.

Answer 9

Harper Lee's characters Mayella and Scout can SWAP FAMILIES for 40 days in a 2007 version of To Kill A Mockingbird? This a great movie idea!?

Think about this - I am giving you some context to reframe your question.

Answer 10

And the men are not as lonely? Why, because they have their "bros"? Women have friends too, and studies show they develop closer bonds with their friends than men do. I don't understand why you think women would more lonely than the men. Also, studies show that men get greater health benefits from marriage than women do, and that men who outlive their wives and don't remarry have a poorer quality of life than women who do the same. Single men suffer more from depression than single women,(and married men) and studies link this to single men being more isolated (i.e. lonely). Single women and married women were comparable when it came to rates of depression and feelings of loneliness. Also, women can get sex much easier than men, in general, so it's not as if that's a contributing factor to women being so much "lonelier" than the men who don't marry...so...why are single women so much lonelier than single men?

EDIT-the same argument could be made for women. As many unhappy married men as there are, there are probably an equal number of unhappy married women, or even more. Studies show that more married women are depressed as opposed to men. And despite "what women say" I will say again that women DO develop closer ties to other women than men do with other men, and that there is less depression among single women than single men, again, studies have shown this.
http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/408844_5