Custody case in pa?

Question

i am a mother of 4 boys ages now are 18 he has graduated and moved out on his own...then i have a 16 yr old son soon to be 17 then i have a 14 yr old son soon to be 15 then a 13 yr old son soon to be 14.

my ex left us back in nov 1996 i had the children in my custody ever since....when he left i told him i was keeping custody of the boys so he told me fine and then i said about going for child support he told me if i did that then he would give up all his rights to the boys i didnt know the law so i thought he could then so i said fine cause i didnt want to be the blame for him not being in his kids life so i asked him what he could afford he said 50 aweek so he paid that when he did for 1/2 yrs till may 2006 i sued him for child support then he turned around and sued me for full custody ....none of our sons wants to live with him .

he left his 2nd wife back in 2004 she was 5 months pregnant and they also have a 2 yr old son at that time .he went to a bar and never went home ...he left her for his new gf.

well they live in a 3 bedroom well the gf has a son and a daughter the son is 10 the little girl is 6 they sleep in the same room the other women is a stranger she is handicapped living in the 3rd bedroom he has no rooms for my sons they sleep on the floor and couches .

i have to go by the custody agreement made from 1997 when he left ,the kids were toddlers they do not want this set up no more .
i have legal services tellin me i can not change this arrangement cause he is sueing me for full custody.

well we went to a modified hearing we were both ordered to pay 1050 i paid he didnt he asked the judge to give him 6 months to come up with it which will take us to april 2007 ..since then he had moved from his 2 bedroom in new phila .to a three bedroom four blocks from where we live the boys asked me to do something about the visitation they only want to see him now on a saturday from like 9 to 6pm .

i am being told by alot of ppl the kids will get to talk to the judge for my ex is telling the boys he has already won and they will be living with him and they have no choice?


what do you think ? is it true?

Answer 1

Your X will not get the boys, most likely.
1: does he really want them, anyway? It sounds like he is just trying to play mind games with you.
2. it will not look good since he has not paid anything for the boys because he will look not be able to provide for them.
The living arrangements will go in your faovr and so will the fact that he has another child that he does not take care of.
The last is that the boys do not want to live with him.
They will not let him take the boys if they don't want to go.
He is probably just calling your bluff and hoping that you are up nights worrying about this.
Don't!
Your Child support division should have a copy of the child custody laws,
get your divorce papers and all the child support stubs,
Even if your children come to court with you, have them write a statement detailing why they don't want to live with their father.
Have them sign it.
This will also help them sort out for themselves that exact reasons.
Talk with an attorney, just in case.
Then, just sit back and wait.
It has been ten years.
The likelihood is slim!
You can also get a statement f from the other woman that he does not pay for this child, either.
Don't rant, rave or worry much about it until you see that he has actually paid that money.
Then, talk with a lawyer.

Answer 2

I would call social services and tell them that your ex is providing an unsatisfactory living environment. Then tell your boys they do have a say they are old enough. Also, the court usually finds in favor of the mother so don't worry too much.

Answer 3

$50 a week, solid lord, i could have jumped on that besides. I make interior the low 40's and pay just about $800 a month in new child help, and the assurance quotes on the two little ones. i don't get to declare the two of the youngsters for tax purposes, qualify for the new child tax credit, or get to declare childcare expenses the two. And, I see my infants surprisingly lots everday, considering that we live interior the comparable small city. i don't think of you fairly have something to rigidity approximately. One, you have been the wide-unfold caretaker for 10 years or so. you have not had any help from him. additionally, it seems the homestead isn't in good shape to function that many greater infants to it. additionally, given the age of the youngsters, the decide will honor their desires in maximum cases. yet, whilst the decide gadgets visitation, at in spite of is desperate, the father, your self, and the youngsters ought to stay with the schedule. If the decide says they are to spend another weekend with him, they are going to ought to try this in spite of if or not they % to verify him or not.