Do u support having baby without marriage?

Question

Wut do u think about having sex and babies without marriage?Is this right in ur eyes?r these kids get the same luv and attention from their parents as the other having married parents do?Is ur religion allows it..be honest...

Think and evaluate ur self...

Answer 1

Yes, why not- in whatever circumstances and regardless of what religion you are in, i think.

I'm there, marriage is as important if we're talking about being legitimate here. But, babies really doesn't have anything to do with marriage- if born out of wedlock.

But I dont mean to say- you can just have sex and produce a baby anytime you want.

What they need is love, care, attention, and guidance from real people for them to grow up to be loving-mature adults, good citizens and all the superlatives that you can imagine and NOT IRRESPONSIBLE PARENTS!

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Answer 2

Babies are the most wonderful gift any one can receive. However that gift is not "free" it requires a commitment of 18 years by law and often more than 25 before that child can be a self supporting adult. At 40+ my grandmother called my mother her "elderly teenager!

Having sex is easy...no commitment involved...getting pregnant is also easy... again, no commitment involved. Simply having a marriage license is no guarantee that both mother and father will love and support the child.

Bringing that child into this world will change your life forever! :)
To provide that child with the love, comfort and support that make a healthy productive citizen takes YEARS of effort and love.

If you feel that you are ready to make a commitment of 18 years or more then you are ready to have a baby.... If you are NOT ready to make that long a commitment...then perhaps you ought to think about not having sex...or using a really good form of birth control, although no form of birth control is 100%.

If you are so lonely that you feel having a baby will give you someone that loves you; you need to be aware that babies are the most selfish creatures on the planet.

If you just want someone to love you...get a puppy. You'll have many of the same experiences as a baby, potty training, teaching them to care for others things, behaving badly and whatever the consequences are, and feeding schedules.

Answer 3

See doll, marriage isn't continuously the ease interior the first position...for more effective perfect or worse till lack of life do you section. once you get some adulthood below your belt and somewhat learn a subject matter or 2 about a relationship, Heaven forbid!! attempt to income how frustrating it would want to correctly be to be stuck with someone who makes the existence of your offspring and your existence a living HELL. in recent times, childrens start up youthful and youthful doin the "wild concern" and what became being "poked at for relaxing" became taking too heavily. And OOps their is now a newborn in touch. Then what do you do? desire you by no ability ought to locate any of this out the frustrating way. And in basic terms what's the drop out price on your college? a kind has been taught b4 and this stuff nonetheless take position. It starts at living house with the mothers and fathers! unmarried mom's and dad's operating 40 -60 hours a week to make ends meet don't have almost as a lot time as they could want to have or want to have with the youngsters who finally run off and do the option of what they were instructed. an truly vicious cycle.

Answer 4

OK this will sum it up....and I am not bringing religion into it....

I think having babies outside of marriage is a bad idea. Children need stability. They need a mother, and they need a father. I am not saying every kid without both will be screwed up, but I think it is irresponsible to have a single parent child. If you are single and pregnant, give it up for adoption to a couple who will raise it. Boo hoo if you don't like that - I am thinking of the child first.

As for sex....I have no problem with people doinking whoever they want as long as they do so responsibly - i.e. they understand that they are taking a chance on pregnancy and it just might happen - they need to consider what they will do if that happens. If they are not ready to deal with this, they are not mature enough to have sex.

Parents need to set good examples for their children. Irrespective of how people who answer this question behaved themselves, I think most will say married parents are better for children.

Answer 5

You know what years ago you might have be stoned to think of something like that. With the divorce rate so high as well as the murder/homicide and family dispute cases no one knows what is safe nowadays. I was always taught that it takes a village to raise a child. So if that is true, if you have a strong support system in line and love and dedication in your heart I believe you should go ahead and have the kids/babies. I guess a village of 10 is better than two people.

Answer 6

Of course it CAN be done. But is it the right thing to do? I don't believe it is. I'm thankful every day that I was raised by a loving mother and father.

Statistically, children raised in single family households are more likely to become divorced when they marry and have more trouble with the law than those raised in 2 parent households.

Answer 7

Marriage is a special thing -- it says to the world that you and your partner are devoted, committed, and in a loving, supportive relationship. It says to their children that we care enough about you and us as a family to make this announcement of mutual care and commitment. Every child deserves to have 2 committed parents, and that means marriage, and a solid relationship before some lady starts popping out babies, and being a single mom.... (there is no worse life than being a single mom, except being a black single mom). And any lady who says otherwise is a single, resentful mom, wishing she herself were with a great guy, raising their family together, and having that extra money for some fun..... She also knows that her chances of finding that guy are about nil..... Men regard other men's children as baggage, big time.... ask any guy.....And this same mother will then sleep with other guys, have babies, and hope to trap one of them.... It doesn't work.... they just leave too.....This is why you will find lots of single moms with 4 or 5 children all by different fathers --- it didn't work the first time, so she keeps trying to trap one, and it didn't work the second or third time either......

By having children solo, one's abilities to make personal choices diminish big time --- no money for fun, for extra goodies that make life fun, maybe even never owning a home, or being out of debt, and for sure, no travel, nice vacations, and no really nice car. It costs $250,000 to raise one child to age 20. There's your car, a house down payment, vacations, and fun time with friends..... (Religion has nothing to do with being good committed parents, interested in rearing a child that will be a credit to society.)

As our economy becomes worse --- the rich getting richer, and the poor getting poorer --- the middle class is just disappearing, and in large part because too many of those very bright people are being trapped in poor jobs, because they couldn't afford to go on with their education to get a better job, and partly because many of those middle class jobs are just being out-sourced to other countries. Being a parent is a big job --- screaming, colicky babies at 2a, vomit in the bed, dirty diapers, and crying that may go on for days with no apparent reason.... babies will test any strong bond, and will devastate a single parent.. Children are not bonding, they are divisive, and you can ask that of any couple and they will tell you. Being parents is a big job.... too many young girls think it is sooo romantic when some guy says "have my baby'' yea, right. And in less than 5 years, he's gone, saying the same thing to some other girl. Had a kid working for me once that was one of 13 children. His mom was 55, and looked 80!!! Didn't she have a nice life!!!????

P.S. Read" Ineedhim7's" response.... typical single parent.... no education, (note all the grammar and spelling errors, not just typos ) and no husband, and will not ever have a husband of any value either... She's 18 and has 2 children.... there goes the next 20 years of her life.... ( you wonder.... what WAS she thinking? .....obviously not much of anything, she just spread her legs.... sad....)

Answer 8

I have never been married, I have 4 kids. The first one, the father ran when I found out I was pregnant, I was young...he was older...but I was of age. I dealt with it and raised my boy on my own. He pays child support but has never met his son. By the way my son who is now 14 has been an honor roll student and is an all around good kid. I asked him if he ever wants to meet his "real" father and he told me he doesnt. Now for the rest of the kids....I have been with the same man for 8 years now, we have three beautiful girls together and they have both parents in their lives.. we just aren't married. Someday we might but we are happy as we are.

Answer 9

I have 2 sons one is almost 2 and the other is 8 months i am 18 i dont live with the father and he has nothin to do with the kids but me and him are still very good friendshe dont have anything to do with the kids but its not cause he dont want to its cause i want let him he isnt a good person for my kids to be around although i have two kids i dont think its a good idea to have kids outside of marraige because my kids wont have a complete family and wont knoe get the chance to experience having a father and mother at home!!

Answer 10

While it is not ideal there are instances where it cannot be avoided. I was a single mom because the man ran when he found out I was pregnant. The age of the mother and financial consideration should be considered. If you are able to care for and support a child then why not.