Most of my friends are lesbians and sometimes they want to influence me which i dnt like it, nd becus of that my fiance doesnt talk to me for the past four months becus of the kind of friends i move with. pls help me
2007-01-17 03:27:06 · 16 answers · asked by nanevaluv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is rather messed up. I would first of all say that a fiance that doesn't talk to you for four months isn't much of a fiance. Friends either gender or orientation do not try and influence you into doing something that you don't want. In other words your current friends and fiance don't sound like the kind I would want. Dump them all and find new ones.
2007-01-17 03:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure your friends are truly your friends. I have many gay and lesbian friends. I have never had a friend try to influence my sexual orientation, nor have I have tried to influence theirs. I'm not sure why they think they could change how you feel anymore than you could change how they feel. I think you need to look for new friends that you have more in common with and don't feel like they need to change the world.
No matter what they might have heard, they don't get a free toaster for bringing you over to their side!!
Good luck hon!
2007-01-17 11:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by lil_hem_n_va 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First if they are your real friends then they would respect you are not into girls but they keep tryin so you should prolly find new freinds and then if you fiance wont talk to you over that you might need to look at how strong your relationship is and if he really loves you!
2007-01-17 11:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by i needhim7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance should be your best friend. If your other friendships are hurting him you should nix them. You need to find new friends who have more in common with the direction your life is taking.
2007-01-17 11:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any other common interests with your friends? If there's more dislike than like, than I would suggest trying to meet new friends. You can still keep your old friends, but it might be a refreshing change to have friends that don't try to pressure you into things!
2007-01-17 11:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Feeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen sweetie, You can't be his fiance, and their friends. If you love your man then go and get him. But if not let his *** go and be the best friend you can to your friends. It's really that easy.
2007-01-17 11:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends dun stay forever in life...but the love of a couple does...so, if the love for him is strong and u trust him...then u will do anything for him...nt to mention ditching ur useless friends.....are u gonna stay with them all ur life???or are u gonna commit urself to the real relationship u have with a guy u love???? he needs u by his side for now...i hope u will be with him.....
2007-01-17 11:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by sue83jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can't call them friends if their asking you to do the things you dont really want to do. If they consider you as their friend they will accept you for who you are and not push you to be like them. And I think your boy friend is not talking to you because he wants you to realize that.
2007-01-17 11:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by Janelyn B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it clear to your friends that you are NOT into girls. AND make it clear to your fiance that he either accepts you for you, friends and all... or he moves on. FRIENDS and FAMILY will last longer than any other relationship.
2007-01-17 11:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, neither of these groups sound grounded!!! ur bfshould like you for who u r, he shouldn't care about ur friends influencing u....he should know u won't change!!! tell him that!!! as for ur friends, everyone says ur bf shouldn't get in the way of ur friendship, but i think he is right in this case! try making new friends, and tell ur friends ur NOT INTO GIRLS!!
2007-01-17 11:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋