I seperated from my wife two years ago after going through a really tough time. We had our house reposessed and ended up staying with the mother-in-law for four years. This was tough enough for me to handle without the added stress of my wife ignoring me when she got home from work. When she got home, she would text the work colleagues that she had just left, leaving me to boil up inside. this was the root of most of my problems. It made my blood boil that she would rather speak to her workmates, than me. The arguing that followed was taken as me being posessive and not trusting her. I love her very muchand can't stop thinking about her daily. I think she is seeing someone else, which is tearing me appart. Please help!!
2007-01-17 03:22:32 · 12 answers · asked by bobsue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry to hear that man. Sounds like you guys could use some counseling to help sort out your issues. And seeing as how you've been seperated for two years ... I would think she's seeing someone else too guy ... try to work it out with her. Good Luck bro!
2007-01-17 03:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's not happy in the relationship and doesn't seem to want to fix it. My husband and I went through a time like that after about 8 years of marriage -- well without the extreme finanacial problems, but we really couldn't afford to split up either -- so we did some counseling with a local place that based the pay on your salary. We worked it out. Then we had some more difficulties at around our 14-year anniversary, but we toughed it out and now we have been married for 25 years.
If you really love each other and are willing to work hard, you can make it, but it takes BOTH of you to want it. Too many people today don't want to go through the painful part and just split.
2007-01-17 03:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ya Ya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to accept the fact that your wife has moved on. She already informed you in her rude way that she was losing interest of you when she came home and talked to the same people she just left. You need to find something else to occupy your time for a while until you find someone new. Maybe this would be a good time to work on yourself. Thank you.
2007-01-17 03:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think shes cheating, she probably is. Intuition isn't always wrong. I have been with my husband since highschool(18yrs) and when he walks through the door after work we hold each other a lot, so something may be missing in your relationship. Are you working? If not that could make her lose respect for you,also.
2007-01-17 09:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by marmalady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation.....I asked for a seperation that he wouldn't give me, so I'm divorcing him. I think you need to move on, hard as that is, it's better than stringing yurself along. It doesn't sound like she's doing it to you, let go you'll eventually be happy.
2007-01-17 03:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys were miserable when you were together why do you want to go back to that.
If your wife wants to try again you should stay separated while you get marriage counseling.
Otherwise you'll just have the same problems.
2007-01-17 03:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
separate to cool off and your feelings.. let her know you still care and are interested in having a future with her. one thing i have learned in life through experience-can't make anyone love you or want you if it is not truly in them. Best of luck-i know it hurts now, but things will get better.
make it a goal to better your life not only for her, but much more so for you!
2007-01-17 03:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by INGA C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some help for you cause you haven't gotten over her yet. You do need to let her go and wait, maybe she'll come back on her own. Good Luck.
2007-01-17 03:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by bluemist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was gone the moment she was sharing her life with those at work. That emotion was yours as husband.
Get a new woman.
2007-01-17 03:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by fire16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go; she is not ready to commit. It will take you a couple of years to recover, but you will find someone who deserves you!
2007-01-17 03:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋