We often here people talk about the differences between the two. It even sounds like people prefer one over the other. I do believe they are complimenting and are both essential to a good quality relationship in life.
Sex usually addresses those physical desires we have. They are real and they have a important place in our lives.
Love making is an expression of intimacy and passion as a means to connecting and communicating with your partner. The act itself is secondary to the meaning and expression it has. That's why we feel that love making, unlike sex, can be in many different ways and at different times.
A nice cuddle, a warm hug, a delicate kiss, being romantic and passionate, sometimes being playful and naughty, sharing laughs together ~ are an integral part of love making.
Would you agree that they should co-exist in a perfectly balanced way??
2007-01-17 03:19:47 · 21 answers · asked by houstonian352000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The Distinction Between Recreational Sex And Sexual Intimacy
There is an absolute clear distinction between the difference between recreational sex and sexual intimacy. While a relationship can progress forward from recreational sex to sexual intimacy, it cannot regress backward to recreational sex, once it has progressed to the level of sexual intimacy. An analogy would be, once a secret is shared, it cannot be taken back.
Perfection is only "Maya", an illusion as they say in the East. Perfect balance is impossible to achieve because humans are mutable and each individual's changes are not perfectly synchronized. The Eastern practice of tantric sex which can only be performed within the context of an intimate relationship, as opposed to a casual relationship, in fact does not endeavors to orgasm but pleasure, which is a difficult concept for the goal oriented West to grasp.
With respect to physical desires, human sexual drives ebb and flow due to the fluctuation in hormones in both men and women which vary between each individual. Specifically, from day eight through day fourteen of a woman's average menstrual cycle of 28 days, a woman's hormone level increases, increases her sexual drive. The increase in hormones and desire heightens the physical sexual response, and experience for both partners.
Jungian psychology/Western astrology is also helpful in quantifying this distinction. The cycles of human progression are in natural order. The planetary energies of the fifth house are casual temporary recreational sex; whereas the planetary energies of the eighth house are intimate relationships and sexual intimacy, as well as secrets and permanent transformations. The eighth house of sexual intimacy is three cycles AFTER the 5th house of recreational sex. An analogy would be, once a caterpillar progresses forward to a butterfly, it cannot regress backward to a caterpillar.
In summary, recreational sex and sexual intimacy are two separate and distinct natural cycles in progressing humans, when viewed unfettered by Western social mores.
2007-01-17 04:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by Venus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a difference between them then, `making love` is not `having sex`.
So if your friend is `having sex` with someone else should make you feel happy for him as long as is `making love` to you,
and i dont think you accept that!
So there is no diferrence at all, just an unjustified efort to place the natural intercourse in a higher/noble state than nature intendeed it to be.
Intercourse is better when you love somebody but is still sex
Intercourse can be tender but is still sex
Intercourse can be dirty and many loving couples enjoy `making love` this way
2007-01-17 04:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a perfect balance between the two makes happy people.
2007-01-17 03:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes they're both an important part of a relationship.
Sometimes we just want to "get some", and sometimes we want to really connect. It's important for both partners to respect each other in both desires.
2007-01-17 03:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by Spontaneous Combustion 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely! Hubby and I differentiate the two by MOOD - "lovemaking" being slow and sweet, and "sex" when we just tear into each other and end up sweaty and exhausted!
Both are a vital part of our healthy marriage - God bless!
2007-01-17 03:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, i might sound a bit old-fashioned, but i have never had sex without loving someone, so for me they should coexist and compliment each other totally. as far as the balance being perfect, that is hard to achieve..sometimes you love more, sometimes you love the sex more...
2007-01-17 03:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by INGA C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're absolutely right. It usually isn't 50/50 though- depends more on what your relationship needs at the time.
2007-01-17 03:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they complement each other and intertwine with each other. It's nice to show you care but sometimes the physical has to go along with the emotional, especially when two people are meant for each other.
2007-01-17 03:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The short answer is like this. You have sex with your girl friend/mistress. You make love with your wife. and yes they should co-exist if your wife is your best friend or vice versa. It works for me, so it can work for you too.
2007-01-17 03:24:11 · answer #9 · answered by P.A.M. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think having sex with someone ought to be a very loving act.
2007-01-17 03:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋