Also as he is premature by a couple of weeks they have yet to name the baby so what do I put in the card?
2007-01-17 02:38:22 · 27 answers · asked by bigbrother 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Put "Baby (last name)" on the card. i.e Welcome to the world Baby Smith! I always thought that was cute.
Like another poster said, call before visiting. It's a bonding time for the family and too many visitors can be overwheming to a new mother. She may be particular about when she wants visitors. Also, don't be offended if she doesn't want you to visit for a couple of weeks, especially with a premature baby they may not want to expose her to anyone for a bit :-)
Very good question though....very considerate of you.
2007-01-17 02:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Nichole D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a thoughtful friend you are. Firstly the baby wont be able to read yet and therefore wont be offended if you dont call him by his name! Try writing the card to the parents or just putting "love" and your name at the bottom. Have you contacted your friend because they might need your support/offer of support especially if baby is in hospital still. If at home go around and offer to make tea/coffee, do any housework, let them rest whilst you sit with baby. All very useful and thoughtful things for you to do for your friends as this is very tiring time. I would say start with a phone call.
2007-01-18 10:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by LAURENCE B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a ring and sort a time out in a week or so as every one will want to be there. There's nothing worst when you've been up all night feeding and changing the baby then all of a sudden people are in the living room asking you all sorts about the birth and labour. All you just want to do is get in a routine and get some sleep. You can always post you card? just put to your beautiful baby son.
2007-01-17 02:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by janine e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the baby in NICU or was he healthy enough to be in the nursery? My twins were 6 weeks premature; one was in the nursery one in NICU. I was very sick from complications of the pregnancy and delivery. I didn't want anyone visiting and was always thankful when they left. All they wanted to talk about was the baby in NICU - Is she OK? Are you OK? I was scared and worried enough without having to answer questions I wasn't really sure of. My other deliveries were smooth and I enjoyed the company and having people want to see the baby. The best thing to do is ask the father how she feels and if it would be better to visit at their home after they are released. In the card, just put "your baby boy" and that will do.
2007-01-17 02:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by pebble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the baby is premature, make sure you are healthy when you go and visit. They are very easy to get sick. Please call before you visit so that mom and dad can prepare. As for the card. Use your imagination. No name is needed on a card. Wish them well and pray for the baby to stay healthy. I have two boys that were both premature and its not much fun when they get sick. They seem to get sicker than my other little boy that was not premature.
2007-01-17 02:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by Brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know after i had my baby I didn't want visitors for a while, for the first couple weeks I barely even have time to shower, and I had gotten absolutly no sleep! so when people would come to visit it would honestly bug me and I just wanted them out! but hey everyone is different...But if you were visiting me I would wait until baby is a month, maybe by then he'll have a name if not then on the card put "baby (lastname) like baby anderson or baby smith you get the idea!
2007-01-17 02:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by mcm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call and ask first, because the baby is premature they want to keep him/her away from germs. In the card you could say congratulations on your baby girl or vice versa. Some cultures dont allow for visiting until after 40 days.
2007-01-17 02:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both my children were premature however both were named the day they were born but you could put "baby boy" and their last name. As far as visiting with my daughter who was a micro preemie I didn't want visitors for about 3 days because she was VERY touch and go and at anytime we could have lost her {she was in the NICU for months and only immediate family could visit her}. My son was a month premature but healthy enough to come home with me only needed the NICU team to observe him 24 hrs to make sure nothing was going to happen and day 3 we came home. I was ready for visitors the following day at the house, and the day after I gave birth while in the hospital
2007-01-17 02:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your friend when it's to visit, although leave it a few days, when you have a baby the amount of people that want to see you can be overwhelming. let it settle for a few days then give them a call. also in the card you don't need to put a name you could just put congratulations on the birth of your son/daughter
2007-01-17 07:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until they are out of hospital a week.
I found that everyone tries to rush in during the first week, and then you are sitting there wishing someone would come round.
If you want to send the card beforehand then address the card to Mum's name, Dad's name and Baby Surname, i.e. Jane, Peter and Baby Jones.
2007-01-17 07:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by FUGAZI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋