Help prego with second baby can i have a c-section?

Question

My first time i went into labour i did not like the fact i wasnt in control of my own body. The pain was horrible and it scares me to think that ive got to go through this again. I just want to know if its possible to have a c-section and do i have a choice?

I was very active as i cant cope with pain and i need to keep moving to keep my mind of it. Only until the midwife got me on the bed i hated it. I had every drug they could give me and i still hated every minute of it.

Answer 1

You need to talk to your doctor about it. You must know that there are risks involved with a c-section, like any surgery. It is major abdominal surgery. Also, don't delude yourself, there is pain involved with c-sections as well. I personally prefer to NEVER have a c-section again. I think you just need to talk with the doctor and weigh your options. Educate yourself. Most docs these days oblige women who want an elective c-section. Good luck!

Answer 2

I had to have a c-section and its not easy. Its a long process to get back to normal. If u have it awake u have a spinal block or epidural and it feels like someone is washing up inside ur tummy, then once the baby is out it takes about half an hour to stitch u back up. There are risks that when they cut into u they might catch ur bladder or bowel or other organs as they dont know where everything is because ur womb pushes things out of the way. Then after the C-section u are giving a pain killer up your bottom and are on morphine. U cant pick ur baby up urself because u are numb from the waist down and u cant change its nappy. u also have a cathetar in. The following day the cathetar comes out and they have u on really strong pain killers that can make u feel dizzy and faint and u have to have a shower. You are stiff and sore and just walking to the bathroom is a big deal. on day 5 u go home with the baby, which u cant look after properly by urself so u need a good support system. The stitches come out on day 10. But it takes weeks and weeks to get urself back to normal. I had mine 2 and a 1/2 years ago and my scar and about an inch above and below is still numb. my mother had a c-section 25 yrs ago and shes still numb.

Having a c-section unless u really need one isnt an easy option, its a hard, sore one. You also have a risk of developing a hernia and with every operation there can be complications.

Answer 3

Are you in the UK? If so, it's very difficult to have an elective c-section unless it's for medical reasons. However ... I had my first child by emergency c-section and requested the same for my second. I was told no. So I used the phrase "I insist" and I got my own way. Try "insisting" and see where it gets you.

The alternative is to go private and pay for it.

And whoever said you can't give birth naturally after a c-secion is talking rubbish.

I'm fed up with reading about how dreadful a c-section is. I had two, I recovered very, very quickly from both and I haven't had something the size of a melon shoved out of a hole the size of a pea. I would opt for a c-section over natural delivery every time and I don't blame you in the slightest for wanting to go down this route. Yes, I'm too posh to push and I'm proud to be that way!

Ooh, that's better. I'll get off my soapbox now!

Answer 4

A c-section is major surgery with a significant recovery time afterwards. You may skip the pain of delivery, but you get to suffer the pain after, so I'm not sure it's a good trade-off. I had babies both ways -- my first was a c-section, back in the days when they let us try for vaginal birth after c-section. My other three were vaginal births and the recovery was SOOO much easier. So I'm going to recommend you talk to your doctor about drug alternatives to make delivery easier. There are a number of options (see link below) that could make it easier. While some people may discourage you from using drugs during delivery, this is really a personal decision and if it's what you need to make it through, go for it. But please avoid a c-section unless it's medically necessary. Good luck and I hope this birthing experience is better than your first one.

Answer 5

No, you don't get a choice.

A c/s comes with increased risks to both mother and baby. It is major abdominal surgery and will only be done if medically necessary.

Vaginal birth may be a difficult few hours, but with a c/s recovery is much more difficult. Think about how much harder it would be to care for a newborn AND an older child while recovering from surgery!

Read the book "Birthing From Within" by England. It may help you to figure out how to cope with the emotional side of birth better.

Were you active during your last labor? Did you use any kind of pain relief? What position did you push in? When you say the pain was horrible, what part of the birth was worst for you? Do you have specific fears that can be addressed? Have you talked to your caregiver?

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Have you considered looking into hypnobirthing?

Answer 6

I am appauled that I see tv adverts for cosmetic surgery, such as breast implants, tummy tuck and the likes (which is not necessary at all) but when a woman has real needs such as a c-section they simply say it's not good for you and you are a whimp (we are all different, you may be rubbish at labour but you might not even notice you fractured a bone!). Believe me, even the removal of a minor cyst from your shoulder has risks. My friend had a c-section and virtually she was kicked out of hospital after 3 days! So much for it being such a big surgery, while my mum had a keyhole surgery (abdominal) and she was kept in for 10 days when she clearly had no problems and she just wanted to go home. You must insist and say that you'll suffer psychological damage, for which you'll be suing the establishment. If I were in your predicament, I would do this. Good luck!

Answer 7

i have had a csection, also a natural birth,my recovery from the c-section was much longer,it is after all a big although common operation, you run the risk of infections, which i got a infected wound,you are in pain, you may lose a lot of blood and need a transfusion, i would much prefer a natural birth but with all the neccersary pain relief, also remember that you are more likely to be in labour for a shorter time,than your first delivery and most women have easier labours after the first,also because i had a c-section i found because i felt so ill recovering from the op i did not bond with the baby quite has well ,but once the normal delivery was over i had a immediate bond, and felt great with the normal delivery.discuss it with your doctor if you really want a c section but myself would'nt want a c-section again unless absolutely neccersary.

Answer 8

Since you have already had one vaginal delivery you probably won't receive a c-section, unless that first delivery has serious complications for you or baby.

If you had pain management issues, I would recommend telling your OB/gyn that you WANT pain medicine and mention an epidural every time you see her/him. Make it very clear that the last delivery was a nightmare and you want better pain management/pain relief.

A c-section is a controlled surgical procedure, but it hurts like hell for weeks after the surgery. And the incisions can get infected or take forever to heal like mine did. And I threw up for 4 days after the c-section resulting in a very long hospital stay for me. No food or water stayed down, I was dehydrated and on IV's for 4 days. They expected me to get up and walk, take showers, feed and change the baby as I threw up and dry heaved. Pretty much a nightmare scenario.

Every time you move to pick up baby, use the bathroom, try to sleep will hurt really bad for WEEKS after you have the baby. It was pretty awful. I don't recommend a voluntary c-section to anyone.

Best of luck to you with your new baby and please research your options very carefully.

Answer 9

I do not see a doctor performing a surgery for no reason.

I would suggest you get controll over your body by learning pain managment.

I know right now your scared, but you can do it. You did it before.
And this time you will not be as scared to make choices foryourself.
Make a birth plan now!!!!!!!!
That will take alot of the stress out.
And there are free ones on line you can print out.

So take advantage of your past birth and work on those things.

Think about the setting you were in last time...Can you change it this time to become more relaxed.

Meds...try something new..do research for pain relief.

Good luck

Answer 10

The majority of people who "rubbish" c-sections have not wanted them and so mentally will always dislike everything about them. The difference with you is that you want to have one and therefore will tackle it differently than those who have had no option other than to have one. I've had one so called natural birth and 2 elective c-sections and if I ever have another baby I would definitely choose another c-section. Yes it is major surgery, but the pain is only for a couple of days after the birth, it's not for 6 weeks as I've seen written here. I was driving (legally) after 2 weeks and had two other children to look after as well. I was in a far worse state when I gave birth 'naturally' and so was the baby.It's not as bad as it's made out to be and if you want one and you live in the UK, yes, you do have a choice. Good luck.