She is someone special with whom I have fallen in love. I have known her for just 17 days and now she intends to get married to me.I am married & have a family. But I just cant stop loving her.
2007-01-17 02:23:53 · 35 answers · asked by Jack 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you need to do some deep soul searching. If you have slept with the girl it may just be lust. If you didn't sleep with her and you have such strong feelings maybe she is your soul-mate. They can do that to you, make your think you crazy. Proceed with caution my friend! I agree with everyone here 17 days is way too soon to make a life altering decision. If it's meant to be, it's will be, just give it time.
Love is not finding the right person, it's being the right person
2007-01-17 02:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Soulfulgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, 17 days makes me a little suspect - I think it's more likely infatuation than love! You barely know each other - and are probably just in love with the IDEA of each other.
Is it "right"? I don't think it's about right and wrong, it happens. What you do about it is REALLY the question. If you act on it, then yeah, you're definitely the bad guy.
I'd suggest you hold off on doing anything! If you are having problems in your marriage - deal with that first. Whether that means ending your marriage or working things out is up to you. But, I think it's a bad idea to use this as an excuse to "escape" a troubled marriage. Quite frankly, I doubt this new relationship will last. Also, I'd think twice about someone who thought so little of having me destroy my family!
Get yourself to a professional counselor - get some expert, objective advice before you do something you'll regret...
2007-01-17 02:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by fdm215 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you don't end up with this other woman, if you feel that strongly about someone else outside your marriage, you need to make a decision. Do you really want to be with your wife or not? If so, go to counseling and get better for her. You should not be considering something like this if you are already married. If you realize you no longer want to be in the marriage, tell her now instead of wasting her life away and hurting her later on down the road, which will be so much more painful and difficult for you both.
2007-01-17 02:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
17 days first of all is way to early to know if your in love with someone. You may like everything about them and think they are the greatest person you ever met but that does not mean your in love. You are also married which leads me to say that she should be your only love. If you had known this other woman for a long time I could see how one could fall in love with more than one person but that does not mean you act on it. If you were to do that you should let your wife know that it is over. And I would be damn sure the other woman was worth it.
2007-01-17 02:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by lost angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for me to believe that you don't know the answer to this question. Come on, man.....you're married with a family and you are willing to give that up for someone you've known for 17 days? Get a grip, it will never last. You don't even know this person. You should be commited to your wife and children. Maybe if you put a little more effort into your marriage, you would be happier. Giving up your family for this other woman would be a huge mistake. If you do it, I hope you are ready for your life to be turned upside down. How are you going to explain this to your children who look up to you? This is very sad and a huge mistake. I think you should take some time to seriously think this through. You are not thinking with your brain right now.
2007-01-17 02:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not right. Now this that your feeling may just be lust. So before you do anything drastic think about this seriously. I mean really do you think she is a good woman if she is willing to tear up a family? Do you think she will do this with somebody else when you two are married? What about your spouse? Obviously there was something about them that you loved in order to marry them. Are you willing to let it all go for somebody of 17 years? Ask yourself these questions and then do something based on your answers.
2007-01-17 02:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by devilish_angel09 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a really unstable person and you should never have married anyone in the first place. You are not looking to settle down with anyone...you are looking to sleep around. You know good and well you are not in love...you are in lust and you know this! You do not have the capacity to love. I hope you make alot of money so that when you leave your wife and children, your wife will take half of everything and have enough money to raise your children. You are not worth the time she spent trying to make a life with you. You are as useless as a broken CD. You don't deserve to have children if you are not going to create a solid stable family life for them. You are a total waste of time.
2007-01-17 03:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by Itiyah Yisrael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, dude.....I think you know the answer to this one on your own. But hey, why not at least ask right ?
Of course it's not right, man....You're gonna completely ruin your whole family for this chick ? You don't even really know her yet. Give it a lot of time and think about this. She may not be exactly who she appears to be. The only reason to actually persue this is if you're existing family is already falling apart or if you are just looking for some action on the side. In any case, you better seriously think about this and make dam sure you cover your own behind.
2007-01-17 02:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lexington 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think that is horrible. I don't get close enough to opposite sex as a married woman. If you are sharing intimate maments talking sharing anything where you might start having feelings for someone I think that you are in the wrong. I am old school I think you get married you stay married. But maybe I am lucky I was and still am in love with my husband. There is no one else out there for me. I would never do that to him or our daughter.
2007-01-17 02:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by peeps 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for your wife for marrying someone like you, you think you are in love in only 17 days? You don't even know her at all in 17 days, let alone be in love. Divorce your wife and let her have a life instead of being stuck in a marriage with you.
2007-01-17 02:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋