Here is a SHOCKING Theory: Love Doesn't Exist!!?

Question

I know people will hate this, but this goes deep. Deep into the human mind and human psychology.

But the fact remains, there is no such thing as TRUE love.

All "Love" is based on RECEIVING something in return, which subsequently makes it Not Love.

Women post on here saying they are no long "in love" with a guy, but still "love" him etc. That's because they still care about him because he has done things for them in the past, but they are no longer "in love." Why are they no longer "in love." Because the guy doesn't make them feel as good anymore in various ways, not just sexually. So in the end, it's all about receiving a good feeling, be it good conversation, experiences, sex etc.

Love is not real. It's Humanly Impossible.

If such a think as True Love existed, we wouldn't be alive.

It's all a fuzzy psychological facade that we humans use to kid ourselves. But in the end, it doesn't exist.

Do you see how people hate each other when they end a relationship or marriage? All this supposed "love" now suddenly turned into hate or disgust.

If it were true love that'd be impossible.

BTW, I'm not saying this because I'm some bittler, old, ugly dude who never experienced "love."

I've had plenty of girlfriends who claimed they loved me and I also claimed I loved them. But looking deep within myself, as uncomfortable as it may be, and honestly evaluating human psychology, I know true love is impossible.

Parents only "love" their kids because they are a representation of themselves. Again, it always goes back to one self.

Angel Eve,

So you're saying a baby understands the concept of love? lol

A baby's existence is entirely dependent on its mother. Of course it will feel attached to her since it NEEDS her to survive.

Just like a pet shows affection to her owner because she feeds her. It's all about receiving something. It's not true love. It's survival and good feelings.

Truly,

You still care or love your ex-boyfriends because of the MEMORIES. They made you feel good at one point or another. You liked that feeling, so you think you love them. In the end, if they hadn't done anything to make you feel good at any point, you wouldn't love them. They all GAVE you something and in return you love them. It's all based on what you received.

BTW, nobody screwed me over. I'm just very analytical.

piepiepie,

give me an example of selfless love...

Answer 1

What you talk about is something you personally feel and that is that all people are inherently selfish. It's not a new concept or even one I find particularly agreeable.

I do believe that selfless love or at the very least selfless motives exist, but it's more complicated than that. As I'm sure you can observe, every action can have multiple consequences and sometimes even the selfless motive ends up benefiting the self. This could in turn taint selflessness and even corrupt it in some, but I cannot deny the existance of selflessness.

I do not deny that selfish love does exist and may very well be at the root of many a divorce. I don't think that you have experienced selfless love and judging from your post, I can't think you are much more emotionally mature than a typical teenager and of course, most adolescent love is for love of the feeling. This sometimes carries over to the 'I love but I'm not in love' dilema that many married folks seem to face. I myself see that 'in love' is nothing more than infatuation like a crush even one that is not returned and love is much deeper than humanity itself. Then again, I could just be an optimist, but if you talked to me about anything else, I'd be the most pessimistic optimist you've ever met. Good luck on your journey.

Answer 2

You must have been really screwed by someone to be this bitter about love. You make many valid points however, your conclusion about love is wrong. I think that you are confusion some issues.

Selfish people love only when they receive. True love does not need reciprocation. For instance, I still love my ex boyfriends - even the ones that did me wrong - because I still care about there well being, hope the best for them, and would treat them like a friend if they were in need. But, if someone is vicious, mean, and aggressive towards me, I will not have any contact with them.

Love is more that an emotion. That chemical thing that we have when we connect with another is just on aspect. The real issue is that most of us have too much baggage to be able to give love unselfishly. Again, not being a doormat or a punching bag for someone trying to hurt us, but being someone who finds joy, peace, and freedom in giving loving to someone else - that is were the good feeling come.

Answer 3

I submmit , there is no love as defined feeling, it is a physical atrraction messed in the proces with friendship that realy exists ( read classics also like Platon), some ANIMALS tend to make couples without having to question this like high/noble state feeling. Some people think that humans are some suprem beings that are not under the laws of nature. The only unatural in this is to try complicate such a simple natural opposit sex atrraction with the pleasure to be with somebody for many reasons that some experts call the sum of them `love`.

P.S. the only documentated unconditioned love that may one put on `loves` defence in regular base and not an exeption like romeo & julieta sex crime story is a DOG`S for his master, and pitfully it does not include sex that makes it more like friendship after all!!!!

Answer 4

only you can tell if love exist for you or not nobody else and some people may not agree with you like me i disgree becasuei feel that love does exist andi feel that no matter what one day i will fins the right guy for me even if it takes me lifetime. love is alot more than just a fuzzy feelin in side you cant eat, sleep, and all you think about is the one you want to spend the rest of yourl ife with.

Answer 5

Sorry... I gotta disagree.

First of all... There is a very FINE LINE between LOVE and HATE! Technically, their brain wave patterns are EXTREMELY similar, and the physiological patterns are practically identical.

Secondly, the bible talks about love and gods love for each of us. Over 90% of humans believe in a higher power, so that means that over 90% of people believe in love. And even then, I know there are atheists out there who believe in LOVE. Just because humans cant see something, it seems like they are so willing to dismiss it.
I cant see LOVE, but I feel it. I cant see God, but I feel him in my life.

As far as love not being "humanly possible". You seriously need to read some literature on the subject, especially in some psychology text books. Love is a PHYSIOLOGICAL response, and has SPECIFIC patterns in the brain even at a VERY YOUNG age. Babies who for the FIRST TIME see their mother, have this pattern. Husbands and wives who see eachother have this pattern. Lovers who are in love have this pattern. Its a completely PERFECT human response.

Sorry... Just had to put my thoughts out there since you stated two unfacts about it not being humanly possilbe and deep into the human mind and psychology.

Answer 6

You are correct.

Love is conditional, but we have a understanding that true love is anything but conditional.

As I use to say, my dog doesn't love me, and neither does anyone else.

Angel Eve - pleeease, give us a break, the bible is an awful template for any kind of love... a mythology about a being that creates other beings and then kills them off willy nilly... and in the end sets up eternal torture for a vast majority of them that fail do pass a obscure test of "salvation" Ha! anyone that gets their understanding about love from the bible isa loon. (sorry)

Answer 7

Love is real.. the only reason why anyone would say they "still love" cuz in realtionship "YOU PIECE A PIECE OF YOURSELF" so to love another is to love oneself.... We do have love... for others... We do love those who have loved us... listen .. I could get into a big discussion about this but obviously from the ignorant question getting you to understand would be a waste of my time and typine.. so take care.. hopefully there will be a day when YOU will see LOVE is real...........
take care

Answer 8

What was the point of this? I bet that no one wants to be with you so your trying to rationalize it. So what if love is just part of the mind as long as you feel happy and comforted.

Answer 9

I agree with you, there is no love. I dont see any love in my life. I know everyone kept say love love love, blah blah. Know what, its only feeling, not love. But hey let people believe in love and you can't change that. So am i too. I know i wont have a love but in someday i will have a feeling.

Answer 10

If you keep analyzing love the way you do, of course you'll never have it, find it or feel it. Simply because you choose not too. The majority of us LOVE it.