2007-01-17 01:23:56 · 13 answers · asked by Kimberly J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What ever do you mean?
Your not in love, but you do love the person you are with?
Isn't loving and being in love the same thing?
Better describe what you are talking about.
2007-01-17 01:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and the bf/husband you are about to dump lack something: basic relationship skills, integrity, etc.
Something is wrong. If he is a confident, challenging, assertive male that hasn't put you on a pedestal or become your doormat, if he takes time to be affectionate and romantic and has a good attitude generally speaking, then the problem is probably you.
Sometimes you break hearts, sometimes your heart gets broken, and in the end you discover what it takes to make a relationship work if you evolve as a person.
I swear, people make this stuff harder than it really is. I'm not pointing a finger at you (I've done the same thing, and I am shaking my head with the benefit of hindsight).
2007-01-17 10:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the type of person you and the other one are.
I can tell you my personal experience with this guy I really love. I am 22 and I am not prepared to go on a long-term relationship. If I have a relationship, it's got to be commitment-free.
I told the boy because I knew he felt the same way (he liked me, but he wanted no commitment. Also, neither him was sure of being in love). We have just changed the type of "friendship", and we keep on seeing each other the way we always have, only that sometimes there's a physical part to it.
We don't know whether it's love or not. We just enjoy being together, and that does not mean we are bound to each other.
It's really lovely, but it takes a high grade of maturity to achieve.
Hope I've helped you some how :)
2007-01-17 09:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by parisbluecat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in that situation now. He has lied to me so many times and been caught that I have to move on with my life. My dad says that you will fall out of love in a given time period, but still love the person so you can still work things out. I say if you have just grown apart and that is what is making you not be in love, then you could try to come together again. If it is dishonesty and betrayal then I don't think things should be worked out. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-17 09:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by charmz21lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you're missing is the "sparks" and the "romance" in your marriage. That's something that you have to work on. You have to keep the marriage alive. Try spending more "alone" time with your husband. Go on dates, romantic weekend getaways, etc. and find that "spark" that is somewhere missing but not completely gone. Good luck!
2007-01-17 09:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a road in the distance love where the the Eagle flies with the Dove and if you can't be with the one you love then ...well you know
2007-01-17 09:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by snoopy22564 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of people who are in a relationship for a while start thinking their not in love anymore because things change and they give up! its take work to keep the inlove alive.
2007-01-17 09:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by dasani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love and value him, don't go outside the marriage, seeking passion and romance, passion is so overrated, and lust only lasts a short time and than if u have nothing else in the relationship your going to be disappointed, and be out looking again.
2007-01-17 09:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave...
it's going to happen anyway.
you still love him as a person, but you're not in love, so you're not 100% into it. when that's the case, you might as well leave and be with someone you are into
2007-01-17 09:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave ,,,trust me it will kill you,,,,see how you react...dont call or take calls for a week....you'll see and feel if this is the one
also go out meet others (dont cross the line-not now) just see whats out there
...........most of the time the grass is not greener.
2007-01-17 09:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by jessys3000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋