Everywhere I look these days there is no accountability for anything. Why as a society are we almost incapable of admitting we are wrong. There is always some excuse for why we do the things we do. I will use a friend of mine as a perfect example, she has a 9-year-old son who has been labeled ADAHT and is on adoral all the time. I love her to death but she does not discipline her child at all, it is almost as if she was her child’s friend not his parent. Her child is wild and does pretty much whatever he wants. When I have talked to her about him, it is always the add, or he isn’t on med’s today, he has a difficult life(Which he doesn’t, both parents make well over 100k and he has everything he could want, they are divorced so he split’s time between both parents but that is normal in today’s society) there is always a outside reason why her child misbehaves, it is never due to the fact she refused to hold him accountable for his actions. When I baby sit for him every once in a while he is a totally different kid, he is calm, does what is asked of him and does not constantly complain. If he can control his behavior when I am around I believe his misbehavior around his mother is also a choice. Any thoughts?
2007-01-17 01:21:45 · 6 answers · asked by crazyhorse19682003 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
The self-esteem movement a couple decades ago started this mentality. The "you can do it" no matter what it is made people feel that they were extraordinarily special (even if they're just normal). That led to people thinking highly of themselves and that the rules don't apply to them. Though it is good to motivate children/people, it's not good to lie to them and tell them they can do anything they want to do or be anything they want to be. It's a lie. No matter how hard I try, I will never be in the NBA (I'm not athletically inclined, nor tall enough). However, what we should be focusing on is finding the strengths in the child/person and expanding on those.
Freedom has come to mean "freedom without limits"; whereas, historically freedom has traditionally meant "freedom within boundaries."
People don't take personal responsibility because adults have been preaching that we don't want to hurt the poor child's self-esteem by punishing them or giving them consequences. We now see the fruit of the self-esteem movement's labor. People also don't take responsibility because of the political nature of our country and that people would rather figure out how to work a system rather than work.
Ultimately, it comes down to a lack of maturity. Partly that is the parents' fault (for training their children [who are now parents] poorly) and partly that is the fault of the children [who are now parents] as they are adults and need to handle their own lives and grow up.
The mentality that "it doesn't matter if you lose or win" makes hard work seem meaningless and futile. Why would anyone want to work hard if one doesn't benefit from it? We are filling our generations with concepts that are rubbish and the results are pouring forth.
2007-01-17 01:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sidewinder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
America has created the "Blame" society. Nothing is any ones personal fault, sue for anything and everything, blame your upbringing or whatever. Fact is there are a some parents, that even once given the diagnosis of ADD, just give them the meds and think thats it. They don't look into diet or exercise or even that the chaos of their own home and life may be making the kid crazy. And usually one of the parents was a bit ADD too. Throw a few drinks in them and they get just as off the wall.
2007-01-17 01:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian but I do not have all those answers. I suspect that no one does. I can tell you about the age of accountability as it happened to me. At least that was when I think I became accountable. I was about eleven and the need to be saved grew so strong that I could not think of anything else. I thought about God in church, in school, at home. I did not play without wanting God with all my heart. I prayed and prayed until I finally said "Lord I have done all I can do, I can't do anymore, it is all up to you" and I was instantly at peace. I don't know who made the rules that babies go to heaven or that insane people have grace with God. There is the principal that Jesus died for all to be saved, He paid the price for sin. This principal is the same for insane people and children, those who do not get the chance to choose.
2016-05-23 23:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not "Politically correct" If we asked other people to take responsibility, then "I" would have to, and "I" am too selfish. If something goes wrong, I want someone else (read taxpayers) to bail me out. Politicians "buy" votes with taxpayer money, pretending you can spend yourself rich. (and confident you won't figure the scam out) and they can stay in power.
2007-01-17 01:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For some reason people think it's politically incorrect to make people accountable for their actions
2007-01-17 01:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does exist we're just not practicing it...
2007-01-17 01:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by Fannie S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋