Im pregnant what do I do??

Question

Im 16 and i just found out that im pregnant. Im afraid to tell my boyfriend because everytime that we had sex we used protection and i think that he will think that i cheated on him but hes the only guy i ever had sex with. and the condom must have broke but what if he dosnt believe me? im so scared

Answer 1

First off, this girl had never mentioned in her question she hadn't told her parent's yet...maybe she told them already, she didn't state that so stop assuming..

Also, the well you are to young, yeah she is young, but a lot of girls a lot younger than her are having sex, like 12 year olds!

Any girl her age would be worried about what her boyfriend would say, because they are both young, and most of the time, guys that are young like to run away from the problem, hopefully in her case that won't happen...

Now, honey what you need to do, is call him up, and tell him that you would like to speak to him about something very serious and you would like to do it in person. If he doesn't accept it right away, allow him to sit on it awhile, until he starts denying the baby, don't bring up him worrying about you cheating or something....

If you ever need to talk to someone, I am only an e-mail [e-mail]...Also, I'm not to much older than you and pregnant as well, and in the Navy, so it's tough...Just give me a holler through e-mail if you need anything.

Answer 2

You are in need of some serious support and the only people who can do that and be strong for you are your parents. You have to be responsible for your decision. It takes 2 to make a baby but it is possible to bring a child into this world and raise it by yourself. Hopefully that isn't the case when you tell your BF but you must be prepared.
There are options out there but I only favor adoption. I am against abortion. I know there are wonderful people out there who can not be as blessed as yourself to bear children and you can be the answer to a prayer that someone has made. You are the only one with the choice to make and if you choose abortion due to the consequences of school, social life or whatever, just remember that you have to live with that decision for the rest of your life. It's not easy. You may start to think of what could've been...and never knowing the answers will haunt you.
The next time you have sex, no matter what your decision keep in mind that condoms do break and instead you should also be on some form of birth control. Also, get yourself checked for STD's if you haven't already done so. You could have contracted something and STD's during pregnancy can cause harm to the fetus/baby.
Be strong and tell your parents, tell your boyfriend and hope that he helps you out with your decision.

Answer 3

I first would like to COMMEND you for using protection!! Many young kids your age, if they are ina monogomous (with one person) relationship feel it's ok to have unprotected sex and that's where STD's come in to play. Very wise to be using protection!!
You definitely need to think about yourself right now. YOU are the most important person in this predicament!! Condoms DO break, and that could very well have happened without you knowing, especially if you didn't look at the condom when you were finished. As for your boyfriend, if you haven't given him any reason not to trust you then he shouldn't think you cheated. If he does think you cheated, then that's his issue. Don't be scared, but do talk to a trusted adult or get yourself into the clinic where you can talk to a professional about this matter ASAP!!! You need to deal with this matter quickly. Email me if you need more advice at [e-mail]

Answer 4

Does your parents know??You really need to see a doctor and make sure everything is fine, it is very critical you see a doctor every few weeks while pregnant.

I would tell your boyfriend over the phone or threw instant message and tell him that the condom must of had a hole in it , that happens alot. If he denies it then there is nothing you can do then wait till the baby is born and get a DNA test done to prove he is the dad.

You should go to justmommies.com and go to the teenmommies and mommies to be forum.

Answer 5

I can understand your fears, but you have to tell him. I was 20 when I first got pregnant and I was terrified. I can't imagine being 16! The truth is 16 is way to young to be having sex, but you can't go back - you can only go forward. You're going to be a Mommy now and your boyfriend (like it or not) is going to be a Daddy. Don't try to guess how he's going to react. Chances are, yes, he's going to be shocked and scared. But, he deserves the chance to be a part of this baby's life if he chooses to. There are tests to prove he's the father if he's skeptical. Besides, these sort of things are hard to hide. It's better he hears this from you instead of anyone else.

Good luck and congratualtions on the baby - they're a blessing!

Answer 6

Well I would put off telling the bf, until after you have told your parents. Unless you already told them. Then i would be truthful to your bf. Make sure you tell him that condoms are not 100% safe. If you guys are in a good relationship then he should have no worries about you cheating on him. If he does, no offence but having a partner that does not trust you is not a good thing.

Answer 7

You need tell your parents like today. They may pissed and disappointed but so what. If you are pregnant, then your whole life has just changed. Your parents being disappointed or your boy friend acting like a kid is the least of you concerns.You need to get in front of a doctor soon. Motherhood is about doing really hard stuff and this is where it starts.
Don't worry to much about your parents. They love you. You might be surprised how supportive and understanding they can be.
Good luck honey

Answer 8

There always DNA...but if your boyfriend very love you he will not think you cheated on him...Tell Him your pregnant with his baby..Tell a Trusted Friend as well to help you go through this and they tell your parents cause they are the only one that will help you finish all your goal in life...I as well got pregnant at 16yrs and I recently just had my son and he is the best things that ever happen to me...it's hard work being a mom but it's worth it...& my boyfriend love his son to death after all the fight we went through together when I got pregnant because he didnt want the kid & I bet you now if I was to ask him if I went through with his plans of killin the baby...he will now regret it 100 cause He adore his Son...So go through with it and everything will go good in God's will Life is hard but as long as you make the right choice you can live life...Email me @ [e-mail]

Answer 9

First you need to tell your boyfriend then you both need to tell your parents and decide what to do from there.

When the baby is born if you don't lose or abort it, DNA testing will show whether your boyfriend is the father or not.

I feel sorry for you. You are like thousands of other girls who think they have to have sex to have a boyfriend and now you will pay a price that will change your life forever.

Answer 10

I'm sure that you are scared, I don't blame you. If you go to a family planning or planned pregnancy clinic, they can talk to you about all your options, give you advice on how to tell him and even have you tell him there with support if that would help.

Hope all goes well! You may just have to reassure him a little that he is the only one.