I've been going out with a guy i met on the internet. We are always talking to each other on the internet or phone. He came down for the weekend and since he went back home he's not really interested in talking to me. I phoned him to see if everything was ok and he said I've been thinking about the distance between us. (we live 260 miles apart) He has said he loves me and i love him aswell. But he's just been very quite and not expressing how he feels. Can anyone tell me what they think?
2007-01-17 01:09:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We did see each other before we met via webcam and photo's.
2007-01-17 01:30:26 · update #1
he could be depressed because he cant see you regurlarly?
if you both love each other..... and the distance is the only problem then do something about it :) good luck
follow your heart
2007-01-17 05:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was it the first time you all met physically? Maybe he realized once he met you in person that you weren't his type. (No Offense) I know it may hurt, but really, long distance relationships are hard to make work, and that is what he may be thinking now that he has made the trip to see you. If he's acting shady, then don't smother him, that will only push him further away from you. Another thing, if he wants to let go of the relationship, allow him to do so no matter how much it hurts, because the longer you hold on to something that is not there, the more you will hurt. (I know this from experience. Normally when a guy acts like this, it means he is ready to get out of the relationship) Break-Ups are very hard and agonizing, but that is life, chances are, your better off without him anyways!
Good Luck, and make sure you take care of your self first, because You are what matters most.
2007-01-17 01:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talking online and meeting someone in person are two totally different things. He may not have felt the same connection in person as he did online unfortunately. If he continues to make excuses and still seems distant I would let him go because his fantasy that he had in his head of meeting u obviously didn't meet the reality of what it truly was like. If he really loved u distance wouldn't matter. Ask him this question.........."was meeting me in person what u thought it would be?" You will know by his answer if there is ever going to be a real future for the two of u. Good luck, I hope it all works out for u.
2007-01-17 01:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He clearly did not get what he ordered. He is not interested. Harsh by true. Move on and find someone who really DOES love you, preferably off the internet. The time you are wasting on this guy is time you could have met someone else. That person could have come and gone whilst you weren't looking. Good luck.
2007-01-17 01:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by Bite Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may have felt he didn't feel he "click" with you.
Its very different speaking on the phone/ on internet then to be with each other, spending time together.
Maybe he is being honest aswell about the distance, it might not be very realistic for him?
Give him some space and keep yourself busy.
2007-01-17 03:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Despite what people say, distance is an issue. It's a bloody pain in the butt!! Maybe he made the journey and realise what a bummer of a journey it was. I saw my boyfriend twice in three months once because he was staying in Brighton and I was staying in Manchester and the journey was just too much of a pain to do too often. Maybe he wanted to end it before it got any more involved and the distance started doing both your heads in.
2007-01-17 01:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Paradox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being taken for a ride!
At the weekend he was out of his 'safety zone' and once home he knew he was safe again and can communicate in his own little way!
He is probably sitting at home now with his wife/girlfriend playing it safe - something he won't admit by the way!
By the way - you cannot go out with someone on the internet and you certainly can't fall in love with them!
2007-01-17 01:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by jamand 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you were what he was expecting hun.
Often people build a person so high up in their head that when they actually meet the person - they are gutted.
It souns like he is a nice guy in that he hasnt just said it outright to you - that he doesnt fancy you- didnt like you - werent what he was expecting - whatever - but he doesnt realise that you'd probably have preferred to hear his reasons instead of feeling like this.
I think the best thing is for you to stop contacting him - chances are he wont contact you either and things will just fizzle out
xx
2007-01-17 01:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave the boy alone Helga. If he has behaved as you say he has?....Then your best course of action is to leave him alone, and let him initiate the next move in your relationship with him.
Another point is that long distance relationships are more than just difficult to maintain. They are a strain and usually end in a breakup for lack of personal time together.
2007-01-17 01:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by the old dog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you had sex when he came for the weekend, then its likely he got what he wanted. I would be cautious about having anything more to do with him. Learn from this that meeting anyone on the internet is no formula for meeting the right person.
2007-01-17 02:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by kate d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the words "I'm going out with a guy I met on the internet" may hold the key to answering your problem...
2007-01-17 01:15:03 · answer #11 · answered by satans_scrotebag 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋