I am married man and love my wife very much,, but sometimes when I remember my x-gfriend,,, I lost in myself. I love her with pure heart and we seperated as our course (computer related course) ended. We never speak to each other after that as she knew that I am getting married to another girl. What should I do as she is still coming in my dreams. Help me!
2007-01-17 01:08:23 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
KEEP ENJOYING MAN.
2007-01-17 17:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You guys had a class together? Did you have an intimate relationship? Well if you have a wife now and you still love this other woman you have some serious choices to make. If the other woman has gone on and you have no contact with her any more, then I would just try to resolve those feelings. But at the same time I wouldnt want to live a lie either if I actually LOVE somebody else still. That is miserable to be married to someone, and yet still love someone else. You need to ask yourself what do YOU want. Do you long for this other woman so much that you want to go and find her? But even if....what if she's already involved and then you would blow your marriage.
I cant say what you should do except follow your heart.
2007-01-17 09:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your position is an acute case of romanticism. I must tell you that a person can love two women simultaneously I think it is not immoral. But what is immoral is getting your fixed or permanent relationship compromised for that. I shall not say that you are not fully satisfied with your wife but it happens sometime that certain people , relations leave profound impact upon us . My dear friend do you still track the status of your previous love i.e whether she is married or not. If she is married then wish the man who has married her because as per you he will definitely be happy.And if she is still not married just don't face her because it is the best option for you two. Left her alone to accompany you in your dreams. I am telling this because though you love her so much but if you meet her she though will be weak toward you initially but in her mind she will always think that you have become shared so the purity of love you are talking will not be there. She may not reveal this to you even you go on having a relation with her. Moreover have you thought what your wife will have in her mind if she knows this , you may gain 50% but you will loose 150%,i.e you will gain the body of your previous love but loose her mind( 50%) and loose your wife entirely(100%)So my dear friend certain past are not be digged out but only to be cherished.
2007-01-17 10:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by bengalhulo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was she just your classmate, a common friend or in real sense girlfriend. If she was your girl friend, then why did you marry someonelse. You should have stuck to her then only. If she was beyond your reach then, then I think its more difficult now to reach her, so just forget her and be fair with your wife. she is your present and future which stays with us. Past is gone forever, never to return. Forget the gf and love your wife dearly, you will definitely forget her in the long run. Remember dreams never come true.
2007-01-17 11:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by keentoknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very normal for any of us to love more than one person in our hearts. However you at some point made a choice to marry the woman you are with so hopefully that was the right choice. It is also sometimes euphoric to remember old relationships because we tend to remember only the good things and its like a fantasy. I thinks it ok to know that you love this other girl in your heart but you need to be faithful to your marriage.
2007-01-17 09:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by snoopy22564 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake yourself up from those dreams. Reality is that you are a married man. Honor and respect your wife and the vows you made to her. Don't think of the past, and never think the grass is greener on the other side. Your ex is history and she needs to remain there. Good luck!
2007-01-17 09:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not have gotten married if you still have such strong feelings for another woman. That isn't fair to the one you made your wife. You need to talk to a professional about the dreams cause your wife may not understand.
2007-01-17 09:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by seriouslythinking 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey brother we all remember our ex friends at one point or the other in life...keep her as ur fantasy..imagine whatever u want to do with her that will be ur imagination....but the reality is ur wife..she will always be your soulmate...
try not comparing both cos that will destroy your relationship with your wife...
dont even think of contacting her cos that will be the end of your reality and fantasy...
she might also be married na???????
dont spoil lives
dream abt her and when you wake up see the love in love wife's eyes..............the dream was just a "mirage" which will fade away with time
2007-01-17 09:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't love them both, you are hurting them both to even say you love them. Don't be lazy, you seem to want easy things that you don't put any effort in getting. Work on your relationship with your wife now and bring good out of it and STOP acting confused silly man. Work on it and you will get results - shame on you.
2007-01-17 09:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by loli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lose your wife over this. exes are not that important anymore, I know the feeling of that. But you have to move on, get clousure. Tell your wife about it, If she loves you as much as you thin she does, She'll listen i am sure.
2007-01-17 09:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by Kataxenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love your wife, your ex was your past. Forget the past and live now. Give your wife a happy present and a prosperous future instead of lingering in the past and hurting yourself and the marriage.
2007-01-17 09:13:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋