had a good relationship but he changed jobs+went back to uni+ was sooo busy which made me insecure+paranoid that he was seeing someone else.i read his emails and contacted a few people pretending to be him to find out what he was up to.he found out,this caused loads of trouble +he was annoyed that i lied and couldnt believe what i did.we ended up finishing.after sometime apart he contacted me and we met up,we both want to be together again but at the moment its not a goos time as he is so busy.so not we are 'seeing how things go' and if they go well when he finishes uni in the summer we might get back together.we now see each other once every two weeks and thats it no phone calls etc.so basically he said we are sort of havin a relationship without the commitment.but it really pisses me off!! i miss him loads and wanna c him more and want him2phone but he doesnt because he is so busy+he doesnt wanna risk what happened last time happening again.makes me sad but there is nothin i can do?
2007-01-17 01:08:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Greetings, pathetic, paranoid, jealous and clingy person. There does not appear to be a question there, which is probably just as well, because you'd be asking a bunch of people you've never met to organise your failing relationship for you, which is, frankly, a bit sad and desperate. If you've made that much of a mess of it, perhaps the best thing to do (and kindest to this chap who you've been stalking) is to accept it's over and move on.
Of course, this is advice coming from a total stranger on the internet (who calls himself Satans Scrotebag), so you might want to ignore it and make your own decission (if you're capable of it).
Oh, and do try to punctuate your streams of consciousness every now and then. I'm sure it's very trendy in literature discussion groups for the speccy **** brigade, but most people on here are barely literate and need all the help they can get.
Do have a nice life and try to get a grip, dear. A good shagging should sort you out.
2007-01-17 01:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by satans_scrotebag 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've got some pretty horrid answers here.
Am in a similar situation, only am older than you, sometimes 8 weeks go by without seeing my man.
If you love your bf and feel that you want to be with him, be patient with him. Tell him, without getting upset..if you can,...that you worry about him, and it would be nice if he just rang, even if just to say. "Look am busy, up to my ears in work, but I miss you." Men don't always realise that women need reassuring. It's not being clingy if you love each other. When he's finished uni...he should be able to get a decently paid job, with much less pressure. The third year of uni is very intense, and I'm sure he's not meaning to hurt you by not contacting you. He probably works real hard, then looks at the time and thinks it is too late to disturb you, although, bet you would sleep better..if you just had a short call from him.
As for what you should do, be patient if you are happy when you are together...if his voice on the phone lights up your day, no matter how bad it has been, but if you have any doubts..talk to him, sort them out, and if you both have to move on, don't be sad, just remember the good times you have had.
2007-01-20 03:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by i_am_jean_s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you see him once a week is determined by circumstances because you are apart and travel is not convenient. The messages do seem excessive. If you were married and living together, you at home and he at work, how many times each day would you call him, or he to you? 1, maybe. By the standard of the average relationship, your messages are a bit excessive. After all, what can you say in 10 messages that can not be said in just 1. Think about the messages you send - are they to reassure each other that you are "there" or is this serious communication. This is excessive - this amount of communication would not be tolerated of either of you were at a job. SUGGESTION - Communicate of course. Nothing wrong with that. But keep it to a reasonable level with meaningful discourse. If you trim off the drivel, you will have better messages, saying more in less time. You are supposed to be studying. Sending and reading like that takes time for your regular job - School.
2016-05-23 23:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO mememememememememememe!!! The guy is trying to get an education here. Can you comprehend the amount of work he needs to put in. I also cannot beleive what you did and I hope he's hid the bunny. Get your own life then you wont need to suffocate him so much....then you might have a chance of something called a healthy relationship!! By the way, you don't have to put up with it, you choose to. My man is away for 6mnths a year and we have kids, but I can see the bigger and more important picture.
2007-01-17 01:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, bugger all I'm afraid. I went through a mega busy stage of going to uni and working at the same time. I hardly ever saw my boyfriend, but I quit the job eventually and now I see him all the time. You just have to wait it out, I'm afraid. It's not his fault that he has to do all this stuff and I'm sure he'd rather be with you instead. That's just life, too bad.
2007-01-17 01:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Princess Paradox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really like this lad why not move closer to him and that way you'll see more of him.
if hes busy he cant help that, if you dont like it then either find someone else or do whatever you can to be with him not getting in the way of his studies though.
what difference would it make if you were to get with him in summer, he'll go back to studying after summer and you'll be even worse off because you will have had more feelings for him.
talk about moving towards him- if you think it'll help
2007-01-17 01:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gain some control next time he wants to see you be busy doing something else. This should give you a reaction that you can read be it good or bad. He knows you want him so he doesn't have to try . Make him want you just a bit. Believe you are worth it.
2007-01-17 04:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, boo, hoo. You acted like a total **** and now you're crying about it.... if a bloke had done that, it would be all "controlling bastard" from the new age feminist ladette brigade, so don't come sniffing round me for sympathy.
If you really want him back, the best chance you've got is to basically w'hore yourself to him for a few weeks and get pregnant. From the tone of your question, you sound that cheap, desperate and stupid, so I'd go for that if I was you.
2007-01-17 02:16:15 · answer #8 · answered by dr.twaticus 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not going to be harsh but, you need to have your own life, have other interests other then this person or you will drive him away for good with your possessiveness. At this time of his life you should and can be supporting him, even by staying away. If he really wants you he will come back, all by himself.
2007-01-17 02:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by kate d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not give him a taste of his medicine.I know it will be hard but its worth a try next time he wants to meet up tell him your busy.He may realise how much you mean to him.I hope things work out for you.Good Luck
2007-01-20 03:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋