This has been his friend since high school. This guy was the leader of the 3 man crew. But now that my husband and his other friend have matured, married and established adult lives...the former leader does anything to cause trouble. It never ends....from telling lies to my husbands family while we were dating, to totally disrespecting me with comments and criticisms. I, as well as others, can see that this guy is only out to use my husband. He has lost his shine...has trouble with women and a job, can not sustain a stable relationship...so I feel he will do anything to ruin my happiness. It would be selfish of me to ask my husband to just not be his friend. At the same time I feel so unappreciated because my husband never checks his friend about his attitude or his behavior. Now me....I am that independent female that will fight you in a heart beat...but 8 years with this man has humbled me enough to learn how to fall back a little bit. But right now....I don't want to fall back...
2007-01-17 00:40:29 · 6 answers · asked by Agressive Pruning 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sit down and talk to your husband.
Tell him everything about this guy. If he has eyes and a brain he will see what his friend is doing and what road his friend in going down.
Good Luck to you.
2007-01-17 00:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but the only way to deal with the friend is to deal with your husband. Your not married to his friend. My husband & I have an understanding... I don't care who the person is (it could be his mother), if they are going to be disrespectful in our house to either one of us, then they can't be in our house. Basically you're telling your husband that he can still be friends with the guys but the guy isn't allowed in your home if he can't be respectful of you. Your home is your safe haven, and no one should be allowed to make it any other way. I have had this same issue with my husband, and I am also the independent female with a very loving husband who has also instilled some humblness in me... but this could turn out to be a very serious problem if you don't talk to your husband about it. As an independent female there's only so much humble pie I will eat before I spit it out.
2007-01-17 08:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by TmB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit your husband down and explain to him, with examples, his friend's horrible behavior. It's time for your husband to commit himself to being a grown up and your spouse and leave the disrepectful friend behind. Maybe you can make it so that your hubbycan go out and hang out with the friend once a week or so, but the friend does not get to come to your house or be a part of your relationship. If your husband respects you, he should at least talk to this loser about his horrible behavior.
2007-01-17 08:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by Beth B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same situation. I hate his friend. He is such a loser.I mean he has to tag along everywhere we go. Me and my man already don't get to spend time thru the day. Due to his work and his lil friend works with him too. Isn't that enough time spent together??? Dude get a life me and my man needs to spend time together.... it doesnt matter if we live together... he works a lot and when he comes home he's already exhausted. His friend calls everyday and dosen't want to go home. And he is a bad influence.... He hollers at every female on the street. Ugly or not... he still hollers. Me and his stupid friend got into and argument and I told him... I yelled why the f*** u always around. Me and my man can't go nowhere with out u coming along... And he always saying stuff about f*** a bi**h he lives off girls... So pathetic... My man knows I hate him. I always say wtf do that boy even really have a girl??? why the hell is he always with us... won't he go to his girl. But he won't let that boy go. They tite friends. His friends a broke as* with no money... he works but has no money??? Where do all his money go?? WHy he got no car??? wtf,... My man has to pay his way all the time. Then me and my man moved to atl... so he couldn't hang with his weak friend anymore. I was so happy. He was nervous to move. But we wanted to have a fresh start. And get out of cali. So that's what we did. No more gay *** friends...
2007-01-17 11:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by black widow 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only way to deal with a spouses lousy fiends is to get a divorce. After all he probably loves them more than he loves you.
2007-01-17 08:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by 1dollar4corn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
id tell ya husband how you feel if he doesnt listen then leave him...cause if he puts a mate before you he aint worth his weight in salt
2007-01-17 08:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋