he is asking for pics and setting up profiles on dating sites should I take it seriously I've asked him to stop but he just carries on.
We have kids and he is upsetting me a lot
2007-01-17 00:37:10 · 21 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sounds like a cheater to me....I would take it seriously...good luck
2007-01-17 00:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like things aren't working out . Dump him . But the real problem is not the computer . Evididently everyone blames him but it takes 2 to Tango and the way I see it you are also not providing something he needs . If he has to look elsewhere?? Dad left Mom for the next door lady 10 years ago . Mom thought sex was dirty (Different things , Oral Positions etc) They were from the old Country and shaving pits and legs and such were not important . Mom changed and Dad came back after a few weeks . Some say he is a male pig . But better a male pig than sleeping with sasquach . Just kidding
2007-01-17 09:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Robert G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the tables on him perhaps??
Put it to him in a way he might understand.."If it's just a bit of fun, then I fancy having a go too and meeting some new men on line, OK :-)....see how it makes him feel and then if it bothers him he will understand how it has been making you feel"
If you didn't have children i would be inclined to say threaten to leave and if he does it once more; go! .. but i know it's not that easy with a family.
If nothing has worked you need to pull him asside and seriously let him know that this is destroying you-if he loves you he won't do it-simple as that. if he continues even after that then you really do need to look at your relationship and decide what you're going to do.
Good luck.
I hope it works out!
Be Strong!
2007-01-17 08:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by jopiejo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult one, perhaps he needs the ego boost of attention.
Perhaps he has an active fantasy life that he feels he cannot bring to you. I know some guys that go to hookers to act out fantasies that they cannot bring to their wives. For many reasons, but a recurring one is that they feel it might damage the respect they have for their wives to have them do the things that they want.
Bottom line is that it is upsetting you, and he has to stop doing it or give a damn good reason why not.
If he continues he does not care that he is hurting you.
2007-01-17 08:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by boobboo77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a cheater. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You should get out of this relationship. If he is communicating with females online, then he will in person too.
Let him go. The kids will be okay.
2007-01-17 08:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by finallyfree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is a cheater.
He might not hook up with the girls he just takes care of his needs in front of the computer with there pics
2007-01-17 08:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The male of the species is programmed to go out and populate the world. Its like a raging thirst. You won't change them
2007-01-21 04:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by Professor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to tell you something. I think you need to see what that is. Meanwhile, you are being emotionally abused. He is a nasty one and if he were mine, I would throw that pc right out the window and him out the door. Sorry, but what he is doing is so wrong I can barely believe it.
2007-01-17 08:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him - if he's thinking it, sooner or later he will do it.
Better to be on your own and happy than staying with someone who makes you feel insecure and unhappy.
Yes, you have kids, but they don't need the stress of seeing you worn down.
2007-01-17 09:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by Elaine D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had this problem beofore!!! It certainly dont get any better!!! It got to the point where he was pleasuring himself via webcam! I was pregnant at the time! So i left him, and have heard nothing from him since!!!
2007-01-17 08:52:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex partner done that to me and i asked him to stop and he said he would but i kept finding more, he said it was just a bit off fun but i felt he was cheating on me so after a few months he was still doing it i put him out, i just finished it after 14 years but i was not standing by letting him make a fool out of me,
2007-01-20 18:59:43 · answer #11 · answered by MAD FEMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋