Forgive my english...
I had a 4 year relationship with someone I was deeply in love.. He never mentioned getting married, and now...after we broke up because of that, he has a new girlfriend, and after just after a 6 months relationship, they are engaged.
I have a boyfriend at the moment, we are 4 months togeather, I am happy, I dont feel inlove, and I dont know if its because of Him, or because I still think about my exboyfriend, and I just cant move on.
I wake up in the middle of the night, this has never happened before, I have very bad thoughts, I am very angry, and sometimes very sad and just cry. Sometimes I feel I dont want to live anymore, (and I am sure I wont do something stupid) but I just have the thougt and it is scarry, please help me, what can I do to move on. I am in mexico city and its hard to find terapy here. And I dont have a car.
2007-01-17 00:33:56 · 3 answers · asked by NENA 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I can only assume that you mean you are not unhappy with the behaviour of your new boyfriend, because the rest tells me you are very unhappy indeed! Talk it over with a friend. Whenever you catch yourself thoinking about your ex boyfriend, say to yourself forcefully (aloud, if appropriate) "I know this trick, GO AWAY FOR A WHILE!!!" Get a dartboard, pin his picture (or a drawing you made of him) in the middle, and when you feel angry, express it by throwing darts at him, don't bottle it up inside! Accept that it will be some time, but YOU WILL GET OVER HIM EVENTUALLY and what you have to do is take good care of yourself and go on living as normal a life as possible over the coming weeks and months. Picture yourself in 2 years time. Learn relaxation techniques; go to the website at www.myspace.com and have a look at the blog of Shan Eris titled "tackling depression".
2007-01-17 01:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am certain that there is help available online. It is probably a lot like getting emotional support over the telephone. In relationship problems, your best bet is to confide in close friends. They know you better than any online shrink, or any in person therapist for that matter. 4 years is a long relationship and not easily gotten over. Simply because the other party has found a new love, does not meant that you have to as well. It does not mean that he is any more over it than you are either. You will fall in love when you do, not on some time table created by a past relationship.
2007-01-17 08:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously think that you didnt deserve to be married to him because he stayed with you for 4 yrs without marrying you but has now married someone after just 6 months. This has nothing to do with you at all. Stop being so desperate to get married. You'l scare off your current boyfrined if you start asking questions about marriage so early. I only hope your ex is ready to marry that girl after such a short courtship.
2007-01-17 08:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sofia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋