This is something I've noticed personally, and although it was much more fun when one was say, a teenager or in college, or even in your mid-20's, but once you get hitched, you'd rather do something else, and the idea of your better half asking you annoys you to no end. Why is that?
2007-01-17 00:33:09 · 23 answers · asked by mitamay75 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh really? That happens to me sometimes. Usually because I'm stressed out or tired and it has nothing to do with sex or my lover. I doubt it'll change when we actually get the legal stuff and the party done since we live together and consider the commitment part of us marriage and the rest ritual representing marriage. When we get married, we'll still be in our mid-20's and in college though. Maybe it's an age thing or a hormonal issue as hormones do change over time. Have you seen your doctor?
2007-01-17 00:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because now you want something more in the relationship than just sex. If you and your mate are not together mentally, then sex is not all that. But if you guys have the mental communication going then you're go to go. Another reason why that may happen is because you are both just very busy and have long days and when you get home, all you want to do is relax and snuggle up under the sheets. Thats me. One more reason this may happen, which is the number one reason is that you guys had sex before you got married and all the excitement or interest you had for eachother before sex is not there. Once you let a man or woman know about your "body" such as do you shave and intimate questions like that, the interest starts to go down. Let that man or woman be so interested in you that they'll marry you so you can both open up that new "gift" and cherish it.
2007-01-17 09:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm reading some of these responses and I wonder how true they are. Life in general can be stressful, and stress can kill your sex drive. When you are younger and dating, less stress. When you are older with kids and responsibilites, more stress.
I think a lot of people lie about the number of times they have sex.
I think anyone that has sex 2 x a day has a problem, maybe even a sexual addiction. That is not considered normal or healthy.
It is possible that past sexual trauma can also kill desire. Since 1 out of 4 girls are sexually abused, this could also be the problem.
Make an appt. and talk to someone about this. I don't think you are abnormal. Everyone is different. Good luck.
2007-01-17 08:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men go into marriage expecting unlimited sex from their wives. Although wives try to be accommodating, they soon become bothered by the constant demands and lovemaking becomes a chore, rather than a pleasure. If these men saw women as human beings, rather than sex machines, they would enjoy a better sex life in marriage. As it stands, their wives get burned out because of the emotional and physical stress.
Husbands need to pace themselves and stop misusing their wive's bodies. Wives need to be more accommodating, but it is understandable that they are not. If you want your wife to be more agreeable to sex, be less demanding. Let her know you value her as a person and that lovemaking is an expression of your love, not another occasion for using her body.
2007-01-17 09:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what is wrong. I am married an my husband and I have sex all the time. Maybe it is that you have a problem. If asking annoys you then the problem is not with your partner it is with you and it sounds like this is not your first marriage and if you want it to be your last marriage you need to sit down and talk to your partner about it or seek counciling. Good luck.
2007-01-17 09:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by Virginia B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're saying is that you get annoyed at your man asking you for sex, but you don't know why. You feel an emotion, but you can't explain its source. Given the truth in this, then the only logical conclusion for why sex goes downhill after you're married is because women are irrational!
2007-01-17 08:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
that is something you need to work on. it's not that way for everyone. i have been married for 3 years and our sex life is hotter than when we started! you can't get caught in a routine. if you have sex every night before you go to bed, it starts to get expected, and when it's expected, it's boring. be spontanious! tackle him at the door when he gets home from work one day and have sex against the door. surprise him with some oral in the shower before he goes to work. 3 am is a great time to have soft slow sex (if you wake him up in the right way). a great sex life takes some effort, but it is SO worth it!
2007-01-17 08:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that happen to all...I've never been married though...
I think its maybe the hunt is more fun ...when you're sure of where u have the person you want it's no longer fun...ya dig? and the more someone asks after sex...the more you dont want it...its like a bad circel that never ends...
2007-01-17 08:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by sofiaa_k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know im in my mid twentys and i find that if im in a serious relationship and we start to cohabitat then after a while i dont want it as much as did. i guess that's because you dont want it to get routine after a while. i think that if you do it a few times a month and not everyday then it will keep it exciting. it wont feel like a job after a while
2007-01-17 08:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by kindkayeye/im a chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you guys let it get that way. I've been married 11 years and me and my husband are still at it hot and heavy. You have to work at it, keep it spicy. It doesn't just happen.
2007-01-17 08:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by Jewel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋