2007-01-17 00:31:11 · 12 answers · asked by Jeff B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call them often. Ask them about thier day, thier friends, school....this way they can hear your voice.
Write them......it just takes a moment to send a card or handwritten letter to them. Kids LOVE to receive mail in the mailbox.
Send them a picture of you, perhaps already framed so all they have to do is place it on thier rooms.
Always remember their birthdays.
Be as involved as you possibly can.......they will remember your efforts and your love as they reach adulthood.
Don't let money be the only thing you send thier way.....if you see a little something you know they'll like, buy it and pop it in a padded mailer envelope. Send it to them, just because.
If they are old enough, be sure they have phone numbers where they can reach you. Tell them they can call you.....anytime.
Kudo's to you for wanting to be involved with your children. They need your love and your presence in thier lives.
2007-01-17 01:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by Janet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can be a good father no matter where you are at. The most important thing is to constantly let them know that you will always be there for them no matter where you are at. You don't always have to send gifts, just a little note to say how much you love and miss them would be great. You can even call just to see how there day went. I admire you for even asking this question.
2007-01-17 03:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by ryanisonthescene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is exactly what happened to me and my brother when we were little! We lived in another state to our dad and I hated it. You didn't say if it was the mother that moved to another state or you. In my case my mother moved me and my brother to another state. On school holidays my dad would pay for me and my brother once a year to see him. Dad would call us on the phone every Sunday. It was very hard and I missed him very dearly. When I got older my brother and I chose to live with dad. I think my advice to you would be if you can afford it have the kids at your place when you can (school holidays). Phone them, send a present in the mail and call them for birthdays etc. and pay child support. I think how to be a good parent is showing and telling your children how much they mean to you.
2007-01-17 00:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by sydney77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a hard thing to do but do it. See your kids as much as you can. Call your kids as much as you can and talk to them and let them know you love them and see whats going on in their life. My ex-husband and I have been divorced now for 3 years and we too live in separate states. At first he was coming to see them and was calling them and then over time the calls decreased and the visits have gone from every few months to like once a year. Now, if my kids want to talk to their dad they have to call him because he doesn't call them. My son is eight and has had a hard time with the divorce as it is but now he crys a lot missing his dad all the time. My hands are tied and I don't know what to do. I have tried talking to my ex-husband about this and he blows me off and tells me there is nothing he can do. My ex-husband has remarried and his wife has 2 kids that he is all involved with now and I guess my kids are left behind. My advice to you is don't be like my ex-husband. If you can't see your kids often at least try as hard as you can to see them when you can. Call those kids often and make them feel you care.
2007-01-17 00:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are at a good age, send them both cell phones and talk to them often. Keep track of what they are doing, that way they'll feel like you're a big part of the life. If possible, get a Internet camera and microphone for their computer and yours. Do video phone conferences. Ask them to show you drawings and things they've done. A free website for that is below.
I've got a friend who does this, and he is very close to his children.
2007-01-17 00:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to do, but it can be done. Giving them cell phones so you can communicate any time with them - and they can call you anytime. Make sure to keep up with their schedules - special happenings at school, report cards, doctor's appointments, etc - and call them to follow up and find out what happened. My daughter's dad has never done any of that and he lives close to her. She is now 10 (we have been apart/divorced for about 8 years now) and he is still a bit slack in this department. Just keep in touch with them as much as possible. Don't think you can just catch up whenever they visit.
2007-01-17 02:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Stacy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way you can move to the same state to be closer? If not, you can visit them regularly, talk to them on the phone alot and let them know how much you love them and miss them. If they are older kids send them money, kids love that.
2007-01-17 00:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey who says I live in America I'm from India and work 14 hours a day making the fuking clothes you wear
2007-01-17 03:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support economically the kids, talk to them over the phone. You can even surprise the by sending them a video tape (talk in front of the camera and talk to them). Make sure you visit them as often as you can. Never accuse their mother.
2007-01-17 00:38:05 · answer #9 · answered by maran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call daily, visit as often as allowed by ex and be there when they need you. I'd move close as possible so they could come over anytime they wanted.
2007-01-17 00:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by singledad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋