He is 1500 miles away & really misses his girlfriend of almost 2 years. Part of me feels he needs to "tough it out" since he made the choice to go so far away. But, he is miserable and I am a little worried. He is doing an internship that is a great opportunity. He has only been there a week and is not coming back until May. Any ideas would be appreciated.
2007-01-17 00:27:37 · 7 answers · asked by laundry? 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First of all TALK to him about this great opportunity he has taken on and remind him that truly great opportunites come around only once in a while so he should seize this experience with open arms!
Be super positive and reassuring. Tell him how proud you are of all that he is doing and how proud he must be making his girlfriend. And get this girl on board with the encouraging words and support.
After the words of encouragment, send him the "mother of all care packages"! I was SOOOO homesick when I started college (many, many years ago and also 1500 miles away) and my parents sent me the best care package. The trick with making it the BEST is the time and energy and thought you put into it. Stuff is with goodies that he cannot get where he is. For example, my parents sent me 1/2 dozen Macoun Apples. APPLES! Of all things....but they made me so happy! Photos, letters, his favorite candy or soda or chips (not very nutricous but trust me it does the trick!) Also, gift cards to places like Subway, Dunkin Donuts, or the campus bookstore or student union are also very caring and thoughtful goodies! Stuff it with prepaid calling cards, or a family plan cell phone so he can talk to his girlfriend without the stress of "how am I going to pay for this?" Have his girlfriend make him or burn him a CD of inspriational songs or maybe "their" songs. Make a collage with funny sayings on it as well. Not only will the care package make him feel less homesick but it will also SHOW him all of the wonderful things that you were saying (IE: how proud you are of him, or how much you love him).
Most importantly, remind him that he is not the only guy (or girl for that matter) that is homesick! Everyone feels it from time to time, but it is really really REALLY important to stick it out and finish what he started. He will have an amazing sence of accomplishment and empowerment afterwards. Now, if he is homesick because he misses his girl and is afraid of what she is doing while he is so far away and working so hard on his future, then you MUST remind him that a good girlfriend, someone that truly loves him, would want what is best for him and want him to be successful and happy and healthy and thus this internship SHOULD be viewed by her as an amazing step and NOT a hinderence on their relationship.
Good luck and wish your son the same as well. Tell him to hang in there....trust me, it is worth it!
2007-01-17 03:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by MaHaa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to reinforce that to him that this is his future. This happened to me when I was 20 years old and I was only 50 miles away from home. I packed my bags and showed up at my parents house with the news that I was home for good...all because of a boyfriend!!!!! I was 20 at the time and just homesick in general. I just wasn't ready to be away from home. A year and a half went by, the boyfriend and I split and I was then ready to go back to school. I went to a college that was twice as far away and loved every minute of it. I now have a 4 year teaching degree, a wonderful job and I just got married in September(and not to the guy that i left college for). Just let your son know that if they are meant to be it will work out in the end. These are the best times of his life. Aol instant messaging, emailing, phone cards, letters;there are so many ways he can keep in touch with her. I hope for both your sake he does tough it out. It will be SO worth it in the long run. i wish you and your son the Best!!
2007-01-17 02:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by kw3647 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pull up your big girl panties and get to work, Going to college is a job and the pay will be worth it if you stick it out. You are in the same boat with thousands of other new college students and believe me by the time the semester is over the worst of the homesickness will be too. Being able to face up to the demands of adult life is a tough row to hoe but what else are you going to do. Your parents are telling you that if you give up and come home to be babied and spoiled it is not going to be that way anymore. Time to grow up.
2016-05-23 23:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds exactly like my brother. We send him "care packages"...we make him homemade cookies that we frost with fun messages and stuff. We also send him lots of emails with funny stories and anecdotes from home. He calls us every day on the way from work while he's driving in his car.
Also, I would suggest that he join a workout gym. Maybe that will give him something fun to do...maybe if the gym has a basketball court that would be awesome too. Whatever you do, encourage him to join groups. Aaaand, I would suggest flying his girlfriend up for their 2 year anniversary...as a surprise. =]
2007-01-17 10:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by purplmonkeez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not homesick he's horney! He has to make his own decisions and decide for himself what to do. He may even meet someone else but it sounds as though he was in a committed relationship.
2007-01-17 04:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have them email each other, send written mail to each other, send him a care package with cookies and photos and stuff.... buy cell phones on the family plan where they could talk to each other whenever they want.... good luck
2007-01-17 00:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them to e-mail, buy them phone cards so they can talk on the phone without running up the long distance bill. writing each other letters would give them something to look forward to in the mail .
2007-01-17 00:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋