In Aug. of 2005 my Dad had a massive stroke. He needs to be feed through a feeding tube and sometimes by hand sometimes he can drink his coffee by himself but it takes a long time. It is easier to hand feed him and supplement with insure through the feeding tube. He has a urine bag and wears diapers,he wears hospital gowns and he is paralized on the left side. He is blind in his left eye and deaf in his left ear. My brother and sister in law are taking care of Dad at home so he is always clean and no bedsores. He can talk but people who don't know him can't always understand what he is saying.Dad will be 90 years old in March. I love my Dad very much. I want him to get better or just go home to be with the Lord. Dad is a good man. Could he be hanging on because he knows how much his three children ( we are 60,58, and 56 years old)
love him? Could we be keeping him in the condition he is in?The visiting Dr. tells us that Dad will never get better but then we have been told many times
2007-01-17 00:11:18 · 9 answers · asked by Pamela V 7 in Health ➔ Alternative Medicine
That Dad wouldn't make it through the night.
I just don't want my Dad to suffer anymore am I a Bad daughter? Dad was always a very bright and active person. I miss him because we can't have our heart to heart talks. He is in Ark. and I am in ILL. I miss his e-mails. If I thought that Dad could recover and be his old talkitive self I would be more positive. Am I wrong to be so negitive?Can anyone say anything incouraging to me? Has anyone known anyone in this bad of shape recovering after so long of a time after a massive stroke?Will you help me pray for my Dad? His name is Frank. Thanks. I can't use spell check when asking so please have mercy on me if I have misspelled anything.
2007-01-17 00:17:16 · update #1
My mother Fannie Bellie had a massive stroke Aug 29, 1999.
My wie and I cared for her 6 years to the day Aug 29, 2005 when she died also age 90 -born 1915.
She also had feeding tube and could not talk. but could hear..
and love us and we her... she could not walk...bed bound...
but her three words she could say and everyone could hear--
I LOVE YOU> she blessed so many-she taught graded school 3rd-6th 38 years and ended up with stroke and alzheimers...
She taught Sunday School over 54 years...
She only knew me in the last year...It didn't matter--she loved everyone..
She taught me how to live--and how to die...
I would not take one second from her...but would gladly have given her all my days if she could have enjoyed them..
God woked miracles thru her and we all are still blessed from her.
no matter how severe your Father is--Someone is loving him and because they are helping him today--they will be stronger-
far better individuals tomorrow...
When he is gone--Then they is really know--how much he meant to them..
I retired at 55 to care for mother-------------I don't regret it one second- but I would have retired earlier had I known....that we had just 6 years and 6 years of sickness not health left..
living needs living...
No-Father will not recover---
But the next life is the greatest....
But while he is here....share every second you can...
take every picture you can...
ask every question..
about anything you can...
Those answer will soon be silent...
2007-01-17 00:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by cork 7 · 1⤊ 7⤋
I have learned from TV documentaries, Books and even here at Yahoo Answer that Brain it's still a mystery to doctors and scientists. While there are some people whom being can live an almost perfect life with part of the brain being removed, there are some, whom can't. I have also heard that most of people, use a small percentage of the brain functions, therefore, some people can live well after a stroke, brain surgery or even part of the brain removed, because others areas of the brain can adapt or learn again how to execute those functions, in a new sector. Another curious thing I have learned too is that a person whom had a member of the body amputate can still feel pain after years in a arm for example, that was already amputated. They can still feel pain, in a arm they don't have it anymore.
The brain, seems to adapt to a new reality with the pass of the time.
2007-01-17 00:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
Well first off I will send a prayer for your father. Unfortunately, the general rule of thumb is that what a patient recovers in the first 3-6 months will be the extent of recovery. I have seen people that have be though to be vegetables after a stroke recover 12-18 months continuously and are still working at the shop at 90+ years old. These are rare occurances though. Your father hanging on my be his way of letting your family know how much he loves your and how much he wants to be there. I hope that your all are not overwelled by providing care to him but I know that he appreciates it. I hope him the best and that he pulls through as one of the minority.
2007-01-17 00:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by n_m_young 4 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Homeopathic treatment for Left-sided paralysis :
GELSEMIUM 200X and CADMIUM SULPH 200X together once daily along with these Cell Salts :- SILICEA 6X + MAG PHOS 6X + KALI PHOS 6X + CALC PHOS 6X, together three times a day half hour before meals, will gradually make your father recover from his left sided paralysis after his stroke. Considering his age the progress maybe a bit slow but these would definately make a very good difference in his conditions. Keep me posted about his progress after giving him these remedies for three days regularly, if you decide to give him the above prescription. Feel free to email me if you need to discuss or ask anything.
Avoid Mints, Coffe, Chocolates, Red Meat and Carbonated Drinks while taking Homeopathic Remedies.
Take Care and God Bless you, your family and loved ones.
2007-01-17 06:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
First, I am so sorry you Dad had a stroke. At his age it is unlikely he will get any better then he is right now.And no your not a bad daughter, you are a heart broken daughter, it doesn't matter how old you are you never want to lose your Dad. I would say he is a lucky man to have such great kids willing to care for him and too make his last days as good as they can be. He needs to know his children will be ok after he's gone,. So I suggest you tell him everything you need to say to him,and let him know you will be alright. Trust me, I've walked your path and it is the hardest thing you will ever do. May God bless you and your family, you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
2007-01-17 00:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 3⤊ 4⤋
My uncle has had a stroke. Nowehere near the severity of your Fathers, though. He still has a perfect memory, and intellect, but his speech is severely affected, and he has trouble with movement of his left hand limbs. That was 3 years ago now. My Uncle's brain appeared to spread the load of the damaged area, and after about a year, quite a few of his faculties had recovered quite significantly. Unfortunately he is still a shadow of his former self, but recovery while slow and steady will occur. I apologise that this does not specifically answer your question, but I have no doubt that it is possible to recover quite significantly even from a situation like yours. My sincerest sympathies with regard to your predicament. I hope he makes a strides toward a full recovery soon. All The Best
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2007-01-17 00:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by Steve A 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋
I went through this same basic thing with my grandmother 2 years ago. We kept her at home and cared for her with the aid of a hospice nurse for a long time (~7months). I do not think you are a bad person for wishing that your Dad was not suffering. Anyone who has been through watching someone suffer for such a long time could not honestly say that the thought that they would just "go to a better place" does not cross their mind. I believe this is natural and very common. My grandmother was actually the 2nd one (my grandfather for over 3 years with sever Huntington's disease) in my family that I had a related experience with. Both times I found myself with those same thoughts. I even thought myself a bad person for it at first, but then put myself in their place. I wouldn't want my family to see me like that.
I do think it is possible to strive to stay alive and prolong your life by sheer will if you believe that your family is relying on you - or in hopes of getting better. The chance of recovery is very slim in your situation, but miracles do happen. I don't know if this is your fathers case or not. It's a lot easier to fight death than it is to make death come before its time (in natural ways). I know this a hard time for you and your family and my heart goes out to you.
I'll be keeping you, your siblings, and your father in my thoughts. *hugs* I hope you get through this... I know it is very trying for everyone involved.
2007-01-17 00:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by dcVixen 4 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Absolutely!! Teddy Bruschi of the New England Patriots had a pretty bad stroke! But he's still playing football!
2007-01-17 02:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
probably not at his age, even at younger age it takes alot of hard work and rehabilitation, but even then most people do not recover 100% good luck, and no you are not a bad daughter for not wanting your dad to suffer, a bad daughter would not care.
2007-01-17 01:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by Angela C 6 · 3⤊ 4⤋