I dont know why these thoughts keep on recurring in my head. I like spending time with him, I like being affectionate with him, I like going out for quite dinners just the 2 of us. I like doing nice things for him but for some reason the "falling out of love" thought stays in my head constantly and I cant get it out so I analyze my feelings from a to z. From the minute he walks in the door to the next morning when we wake up. We have been dating for 5 months and a month ago this all happened FOR NO REASON. Everything has stayed the same and we are still both the same ppl. The 1st 5 months were out of this world and then I woke up (honestly overnight) and I Was questioning my feelings. I want to be in love with him again SO bad. I want to feel like I did before. I dont ever want to be with anyone else again. Does anyone have any suggestions? This is the 1st drama free relationship I have been in and he is a great person for me.
How can I make myself love him again? Please help!
2007-01-17 00:11:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are falling out of love then you cant stop it. You dont choose who you love and dont love, love chooses you.()
2007-01-17 00:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Saint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like what is happening is that you are falling out of love and starting to get into loving instead. In love is a very high, flighty, exciting feeling that you get when a relationship just starts. Love is the less exciting but deeper and more mature feeling for the other person. No one can stay "in love" for more than a year or two tops"; it is too intense to maintain.
Examine your feelings and try to see if you care about him as a person even if the excitement has diminished. If so, then you are right on track for a more meaningful and lasting relationship. On the other hand, if you have stopped feeling for him then do the right thing and break it off before it goes far beyond the time when it should.
Best of luck.
2007-01-17 00:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This situation seems so familiar it's scary. With my boyfriend I've always had amazing great times with him and when I'm around him felt in love with him, but like you went mental on analysing the situation as to whether I was still in love etc.. The answer is yes you are still in love if you like doing all that with him and you have a good time with him still. I've never found the answer to why I did that, but i've heard about 2 other people that do that now, so now I know it appear to be normal. I think what the underlying problem is, is a fear of everything going wrong, a fear of things falling through and not being the same, in otherwords you are a perfectionist. Just relax a little, enjoy the time you spend with him, and if you have a good time with him and feel in love with him when you are with him and don't want to leave his side then remember that feeling when you aren't with him and occupy yourself with other things too so that you think of other things but when the thought of him pops into your mind, you smile instead of worry. :-)
2007-01-18 03:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe things are just turning into a routine. Time to mix things up a little. You must know him pretty well. Think of something new or that you would both like to do and do it. Going on a vacation always a great idea. Make sure it leaves lots of time for romance, not just sightseeing. Make sure that you get some special bedtime clothing. You will want him to show you the kind of passion you had the very first time.
I hope this will help.
Good luck.
2007-01-17 00:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you can 'make yourself love him again' if you're falling out of love. Maybe it all feels unfamiliar because it's the first 'drama free' relationship. Or maybe you're commitment phobic and are sabotaging the relationship. Maybe the initial flush of excitement is diminishing and turning into something more sustainable and long-term. Or maybe you're falling out of love because your instincts are telling you something isn't right. Counselling may help you identify whether there really is a problem and what caused it. It `seems a shame you are fixated on this instead of enjoying the present with him.
2007-01-17 00:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO!
Do some thing different. Reinvent what ever you have with him. Think about what u love to do with him. Go out to some place where you never going before. Learn to have fun with him again. Go bowling if you never done that before. Do some thing both of you have never done before. Go horse back riding with him. Go out in The country with him and discover nature. Do it in the back set of the car with him Walk out into to Fields out in the country and have a picnic with him. Bring along a blanket and do it under the stars with him. Reinvent yourself with him Get that Spark back. Go and do it and have fun with him.
2007-01-17 00:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some serious free consoling.
Check in your home state and town about it.
You say that you love him, do that for both of you.
2007-01-17 00:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋