Its kinda come at the wrong time as i am 19 and not really finacially ready for a child. I am also scared to tell my parents as my mom had me when she was 18 and struggled as a single parent im worried she will be disappointed and angry at me for going down the same path as her even though i am in a happy relationship with my partner nobody knows about the pregnacy yet apart from my close friend.
Some days i want this child but other days i feel like what can i offer. I really dont want to go through another termination either.
Also yesterday when i went to the toilet there was dark brown gunge on the tissue and in my knickers the day before there was blood but these are not large amounts just small and it only happened once both days.
I am about nearly 2 months i think.
2007-01-17 00:00:09 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Also can anybody tell me about the bleeding?
2007-01-17 00:05:40 · update #1
My mom raised me with out my dad and like you I was scared to tell her the first time I was pregnant, but I was younger that you are at the time. She did cry and was upset till it was confirmed and then she just had to deal with it because it was to late to do anything now. When I lost the baby, she cried harder than I did. I am almost 20 now and I am pregnant with my third and last. I know I am young still now, but I am married almost for 4 years and I love my family. I couldn't see myself do anything other than living and caring for my girls. Things have always worked out for us, yes money is tight and we cant live like we did before kids, but its OK for me because when you hold your little baby you know you will do anything to make your baby have a good life. Your mom loves you and will always love you no matter what. My mom love being a grandma and loves to see my girls and cant wait to see this one. I am her oldest. Good luck and I hope all goes well with you. If you ever want to talk, you can email me and I would love to talk to you. Good luck!!
2007-01-17 00:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by kristin h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hiya. i was in the same situation as u a while back. i found out i was pregnant and i really wasnt ready for it as i am only 17. ive been with my partner 4 nearly 2 years so i discussed it with him.
After a LOT of talking, i decided 2 tell my parents. i felt i'd let them down because my sister also had a baby at 17 but they were really supportive.
In the end i decided 2 keep my baby and am now almost 19 weeks pregnant. it was a tough desision but i couldnt go through with a termination.
I think u really need to talk 2 your partner AND your mum coz she can help u make an informed desision and your partner might b really happy about it. all you need to ask your self is- r u ready 2 b a mum n can u c yourself with a baby coz if the answer is yes n u want this baby, there is loads of support out there! hope it works out 4 u.
2007-01-17 07:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by loulou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you see a doctor yesterday? Go to the doctor first. Deciding whether you want to keep a baby or not, is after the dr's visit. Check your health first!
Maybe you have miscarriage, and nature has decided for you, but having a child is turning upside down your life, a MILLION times more than you can imagine.
I had an abortion 10 years ago, and though I knew I was responsable fore getting pregnant (missing pills), I decided not to have the baby.
Now I have a child and understand better for myself how right my very difficult choice was at that time. I am sure I would have loved the baby, but I could not support him financially, did not want to keep up with the father, was not a strong, balanced person enough myself..
Consider whether changing your entire lifestyle and personality (including having no money, no time for yourself..) keeps the relationship great with the father. If you become somebody else, will he love you? When he does not evaluate with you, will you keep on loving him? Do you want to skip a fantastic part of your youth?
Talk open with your mother,. She went through it. She might help you.
Strenght.
2007-01-17 00:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by belgium 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Implantation Bleeding
If you experience spotting or cramping between periods, this may be an indication that implantation of your embryo into the uterine wall has occurred. This light bleeding can be one of the earliest pregnancy symptoms, taking place bout 6-12 days after conception.
Other Explanations: Spotting and cramping can be attributed to non-pregnancy causes, however. Actual menstruation, altered menstruation, changes in birth control pill, infection, or abrasion from intercourse may all mimic implantation bleeding. Therefore, this sign can not be in any way considered to be conclusive.
As for the mom, relax. She'll be so happy to have a grandchild on the way. I'm 33 and pregnant with my first and I'm feeling the same feelings as you. It's perfectly normal, it just shows that you are smart enough to know this isn't a game and will change your life. Congratulations, sounds like you'll be a great mom.
2007-01-17 00:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too was 19 when I had my daughter. I was worried about how my Mom and Grandpa would be disappointed in me. They were...at first. However, I took care of my child and proved that I was a wonderful Mother (of course the Daddy was there too). Age and maturity are two different things. I know 27 year old who have kids and aren't ready, they don't even take care of their kids. The best advise I have for you is to do your best. Just tell your Mom. When the baby comes, just be the best Mom you can be and if you need help, don't hesitate to ask.
Good luck and congrats on the baby!
2007-01-17 00:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by ~Anna~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is talk this over with the farther, find out what he thinks about the baby and if he would want to raise a child with you. Then you need to talk it over with your mum. Having these conversations might help you to decide weather or not you want to keep the baby. As hard as they might be, they are necessary, and these people will find out one way or another, so the sooner the better.
Will the farther be around to raise the child as his own? if not will he provide you with financial support?
Also you must go to the Dr and get checked out, tell them that you have experiences some bleeding, although I is not necessarily uncommon to experience a small amount of bleeding so do not panic.
2007-01-17 00:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by The Dude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly whatever you decide to do you should see a doctor as blood during pregnancy is NOT normal.
I had my child when i was just turned 19 i had her fathers support throughout but raised her as single parent it is not an easy job but its very rewarding. The decition should be completely yours and dont let anyne make it for you take time to decide what to do otherwise you could end up regreting your deciton in the future. Also speak to someone maybe use connections they are very helpfull dealing with pregnancy issues at a young age they may be able to help.
2007-01-17 00:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT lie to him. My brother stayed with his woman when she told him the truth. It wasn't his either but the next one was! I've been in your shoes myself and I did NOT lie. I'm glad I told the truth! However, I ended up leaving him 3 years later due to domestic violence. (my baby wasn't his, good thing I didn't lie) There is always abortion if your not too far along. Hate to say it, I choose life but it's a womans right. Sounds like your lie is messed up. Not a good place for a baby. Get counseling no matter what you chose. I wish I had gotten therapy right away! you'll make the same mistakes over and over...jumping from one man to another. I was pathetic, not anymore. I wish you the very best! Good luck!
2016-05-23 23:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have decided to keep the baby then you don't have to tell anyone until about 4 months (that's when you might start to show) Give yourself some time to get used to the idea. I would suggest that you tell the father asap so you both can decide what to do. You both will need time to accept it and once you have (or have made a decision) you can tell the rest of your family and friends
2007-01-17 00:09:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bleeding can be normal sometimes. See your doctor.
I had my first child at 19. Its going to be hard to raise a kid no matter what your age. Atleast when your young you have the energy to keep up with them. I cant tell you whats best for you, but I think you should keep this baby. God has blessed you with this baby for a reason, dont dismiss that so quickly.
2007-01-17 00:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by nichollette4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋