I was watchin a tv program where some guy was talking to a girl about a man that was in the same room?

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who had been through an awfull lot of pain and trauma in his life...and the guy said to the girl about the man, ' i wouldnt wanna go through his hell'. and in a way its the exact same thing i worry about, that what youve been through in life can make you indifferent to everyone else...like nudge nudge wink wink, ' do you know about him...' . and all that stuff. and because ive been through alot of emotional pain and trauma in my life, im afraid people could do this to me therefore making me indifferent to everyone else?? what does anyone think bout this?

Answer 1

First of all, your question is a bit unclear… being "indifferent to everyone else" means that you have no concern or sympathy toward them -- is that what you meant? Or are you worried that others will be indifferent toward you?

I've been through a lot of pain and trauma in my life, and I feel that it has made me more sensitive and empathetic. However, I do know people who belittle what others complain about, because they've endured worse. But pain is pain, and it's all relative - so what might seem like a minor issue to you can feel like a huge problem to someone else.

If you are concerned about others pitying you or viewing you as pathetic, that is a separate issue that you do have control over. If you use the fact that you have survived despite your struggles as a source of strength, and if you carry yourself and conduct your life with dignity, then others will view you as an inspiration. But if you allow yourself to wallow in self-pity and take a "woe-is-me" attitude about life, then people will not want to be around you because it brings everyone down.

Also, you do not need to share your entire life story with the whole world. Most people that know me are unaware that I was sexually abused as a child. If the topic comes up in some way, I am not ashamed to admit it, because I was innocent and did nothing wrong. Most people know I am a single parent, but don't always know that I ended the marriage because of alcohol/drug abuse that killed my ex less than two years later. When people do learn these things about me, they seem surprised. It is because I have chosen not to be defined as a victim.

Again, it is how you look at your circumstances and whether you allow yourself to be held back by things that you can not change. All that you have control over in this life is what you are doing in this very moment. You need to make your choice based on who you are and the kind of person you want to be. If you choose actions based on what happened to you in the past, they you continue to be a victim of who/whatever caused you the pain.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Yeah okay, but you are so on top of that business you can form a concerned question that I had to think about!! I don't feel like that on TV will happen to you. You write too well so you probably speak well too. You are too ahead of that game to worry about being in those shoes, I mean it sincerely. You are watching out for that. No sweat!! Good Luck, my money is on YOU!! @8-)