I know A Secret that My Ex Did, should I tell?

Question

for many of you who know, me and my ex broke up at the end of November and she won't return my emails. Well, the other day I talked to a mutual friend of ours and she told me that someone reported her to Child Protective Services and that she thinks it was my ex. I know for a fact it was my ex. My ex goes up there like she's best buddies with these people and then reports them for stuff that's not even going on. Should I tell my friend or should I let her figure it out on her own? She pretty much knows my ex did it. The reason I'm asking is because IF I do tell her, I run the risk of my EX never speaking to me again, not that she is now and if I don't tell her, I believe my ex will continue to go up there and report things. What to do?

Answer 1

if the things she reports are true, then you should be concerned about the children and also report them...if they really are lies then your ex is a jerk who is putting everyone at risk....life in a foster home is not a good life for a child.....so if she really is lying then you should report her and tell your friend...good luck

Answer 2

if the reports are not rue you owe it to thekids involved- they can be taken away from theparents imagine how that would affect them/parents. i wouldn ot tell the ex- who cares she is your ex- i would talk to the neighbor and verify that dyfs was called and if they were-i would ask the neighbor to give you the name of the case manager handling the call- contact her/.him and explain the whole mess. My friend had this prob-was her ex hub called dyfs and bragged to a friend about it- good thing he did- dyfs was about to take the kids away- the friend was interviewed and all was cleared but for 2 weeks thekids had toplaced with her mom until investigation was cleared. you need to think outside the box rightnow- these children are innocent victims or your ex-freak and they ultimately willpay the price if it goes out of hand. and the parents as well- anytime a call goes in like this-it's is a legal record and follows until the kids are 18. the schools are notified and teachers,guidance counselors,nurses etc are all put on alert. how awful for the parents. you have a big moral conondrum here- and i hope you choose the right way to approach this. and- if she doesn't talk to you ever again so what?? do you want anything to do with a person whom would stoop to this level???? Imagine what she could do to you further down theline if you were to say stupidly marry and bear children with her?? god forbid. Be the man you are capable of and fix this to the best of your ability.

Answer 3

I guess what you are saying is she makes stuff up that isn't really happening.
Instead of telling your friend. Go the extra mile and contact child protective services and tell them that your ex, is making false reports to CPS. They will keep your identity secret from the ex.
Then you can sit back and watch the fireworks fly as the state will deal with your ex in a very harsh manner.
After CPS finishes with your ex then tell the friend what you did.

Answer 4

If your friend is doing nothing wrong to her child and your ex is making false claims then her children are at risk of being taken away from her. There have been many cases where the parents have done nothing wrong, and yet they have ended up in court fighting to have their children returned because of a bad neighbor, etc... By not saying anything to your friend, you could be responsible for her losing her child. Is that something you could live with?

Answer 5

Tell your ex in general that you dont think its a good idea for her to do these things but if she does you dont want to know about them. If indeed she is reporting completely false incidents then she needs to get help - please talk to her and try to get her to understand how wrong this is. As for this specific issue I wouldnt tell your friend anything - she already knows - dont get involved or you may find yourself getting blamed for not teling other people about stuff you know or geeting roped into a real big debate around this. If she continues to do this then you may have to report her to the authorities. You also have to bear in mind that if you tell she may let some of your secrets out. She sounds like she needs help tho.

Answer 6

Was the mutual friend reallu causing trouble for her kids?.... If she was not then i think ur ex was out of line to be two faced like that. so why do u care is she speaks to u or not.. would u really have a frn like that in ur life?.... don't tell her anything ..... cuz she already has a good idea anyways .. just keep ur mouth shut and left them sort it out....

Answer 7

Be truthful to your friend. let her know what is going on.

This ex of yours has reported a serious allegation, to save your friendship and your friends sanity tell her what is happening.

So what if your ex never speaks to you again. Do you really want someone like that in your life.

Look at it this way...... What has she said about you!!!

Answer 8

Annonymously provide the proof to your friend. After that, stay out of it and let your friend handle it. Cut all ties with the ex, she's a revengeful person.

Answer 9

If theres something worth reporting let her report it, if theres kids involved I'm sure shes thinking of their best interests. Its your friend that I'm not sure about.

Answer 10

Stay out of it altogether. As the country folks here say "You ain't got a dog in that fight."

Getting in the middle of it is a bad idea. Stay away.