Would you adopt a child, whether or not you can have children?

Question

Why would you, or wouldnt you adopt a child? What are the pros and cons? From which country would you like to adopt, and does skin colour matter (I would care about skin colour, but some people do)? Would you tell your child that he or she is adopted, and would you mind of one day he or she would want to know more about his/her roots?

Sorry I meant (screwed up my writing there): I DONT CARE AT ALL ABOUT SKIN COLOUR. Any child woud be welcome :-)

Answer 1

I would like to adopt a child, as I personally do not believe DNA has anything to do with how much you can love someone. I would tell the child he or she is adopted, since a) lying about the adoption implies that adoption is something to be ashamed of and b) even if you do lie, eventually the child might find out and feel as though their entire life has been a lie.

I would probably adopt from China because their adoption program is very 'smooth'. It's the one of the most straight-forward adoption routes to go down, since it is such a popular country. I personally don't care about skin colour because I don't think it matters. Some people might say that the only reason they wouldn't adopt a child of another ethnicity would be because they wouldn't 'fit in with the community'. I think that is a weak argument at best, since North America, in general, is becoming more multi-cultural and diverse every day. I would encourage my child to learn about his/her roots, and I would participate along with them. It's beneficial for everyone to learn about and appreciate other cultures.

For some people, especially if you adopt domestically, a child wanting to know about their birth parents can be quite scary. These people need to realize that just because their child is curious about their birth family, it does not mean they will leave their adoptive parents. The adoptive parents are the 'real' parents, since they're the ones who have raised the child. Whether it was your egg/sperm that made the child has no relevance to whether that child is 'your' child, and how much you love them.

Adoption is a great option, and not just as a back up plan in the case of infertility.

One more thing I'd like to mention is that some people have said they want to adopt a child so they can help a child in the world. Though that is very noble, that should not be your only reason for wanting to adopt. This child isn't chairty, it's your son or daughter! Only adopt if you truly want to have a child.

If you would like to help a child in the world, but do not really want to have a child, consider sponsoring a child via a reputable organization (Plan, World Vision, etc.). Not only would you be helping a single child, but that child's entire community. Think about it, you can change an entire community's future with approx. $350 a year. $350 a year is nothing when you consider how much money people waste on things like beauty products, eating out, entertainment, etc. So whether or not you want to adopt... Sponsor a child!!
Wow... sorry about the long post!

Answer 2

I'm not planning to have children, but I've always told myself that if the time comes that I will want a child I would adopt rather than conceive my own. There are so many children in the world as it is who desperately need someone who will love them and take care of them and give them the chance to live a better life. It just wouldn't feel right to me to ignore those unfortunate children. I already help them via donations and volunteer work, but maybe one day I can provide a home for one or two of them.

I don't care about skin colour or ethnicity. I would tell them they are adopted (but make it clear how much I love them and how I feel like they are my own) and I'd want them to know about their roots once they become old enough to understand them.

Answer 3

Adoption is wonderful if the parents are patient and loving. I am single and yes, if I don't marry would consider adopting, probably an older child because it would be difficult to care for a very young one alone.
Pro: One has a child, a son or daughter.
Cons: There may be adjustment problems to overcome, and children are in general born to be pains. Also, one does not always have a picture of the child's overall health and background.
Overall: For the right people, full of love and desire, well worth it!
--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 4

OK, yes I would, the con would be problems with the birth parents. I would adopt from my own country, as there are many children who need a good home here, "charity begins at home". The skin color or ethnicity does not matter, and when the child was old enough, maybe 18, and I thought it would nit be hurtful psychologically to them, yes I would tell them that they were "chosen" by me, and it is not so much the roots, as the medical history that would be an issue for me.

Answer 5

Yes, providing I was capable, in all ways, of raising that child in a wholesome and healthy environment. I don't see any cons, adoption would be my first choice. The nationality and color of skin would not enter into my decision. Yes, I would inform the child at the age I feel they are able to understand. No problem with searching for roots. Adoption can be the most fulfilling and rewarding experience in life. I wish more people would consider it.

Answer 6

The world has too many problems to bring a child into it.....My opinion is to help, or give a small ounce of hope, to a child who has very little. Make a better life for one that might never get the chance. Make a difference in the world. Not that a child of my own doesn't sound amazing, just that I would go to this first.

Answer 7

I already have a child of my own and would easily adopt a child if it meant that child would have a better life. I think i would find it much harder if i couldnt have children as adopting a child if you cant have children is quite often the last option and i think i would always feel like their was something missing in my life. The coulor of the child would depend if i wanted people to think that was my child, personnaly it wouldnt bother me in the slightist.

Answer 8

I have four children now and I think when they are all at least seven years old I would adopt a child. Preferably a child that is of a Jewish/Latino heritage just to fit in with the family. I think I would feel more strange if the child was Asian or different heritage than my family and would make the child feel more out of place also. I think it would be a good way to show my children how we should care for people and take them in when they have troubles. To offer all we have and to love as much as possible.

Answer 9

Having a child (giving birth) is the most selfish thing people do
Adoption is very unselfish and a contribution to society.
Never lie to your child who is adopted
Also make sure to learn the language and culture of the child's country ......It has the right to know where she came from.

Answer 10

I would adopt a child in its own environment. Sponsor in Asia or South America. A girl in China, a streetkid in Brazil, maybe an Aids toddler in Africa. Can't afford to adopt one outright.