my bf is studying abroad. last week, when we chat on YM, i saw his avatar, which was him and a girl. He said that she is his gf when i asked him about the girl. unfortunately, my internet was disconneted that time so i couldnt chat with him any more. what should i do next
- move on
- ignore it, keep contact with him as friends and dont ask about that girl at all
- write him email, show him my feelings
p.s: though we are in love, i never show him that i really love him or he is the only one in my heart. is there any chance that his behavior is a test. i mean, if i really love him, i would be very jealous with that girl.
2007-01-16 23:09:25 · 6 answers · asked by pussycat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Read THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman. Gary makes some of these things quite clear. It sounds like "your bf" is addicted to being "in love" which is to say infatuated. Good that you found out (hopefully) before you were married. I think the best thing would be to acknowledge that he is a jerk and forget him. You obviously were "in love" with who you thought he was rather than who he really was. (He sounds like a person who really is only "in love with himself". Recognize that the Almighty has given humans a great gift in sex and marriage. When you take the two apart, you destroy the gift.
2007-01-16 23:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It this is a test by your bf then he is playing games & is obviously not a person who can communicate very well. Maybe you did not let him see your feelings because you were too scared? You probably sensed something about this man that held back your trust. It was your intuition & it is always right. A man who loves a woman does not behave this way so seems you may have to accept the truth that he is no longer interested in having a relationship with you or is expecting you to be there for him when he is back. Either way you are far better off being with a man who loves you openly & with whom you don't have to feel confused or cheated. Respect yourself & know you deserve better.
2007-01-17 07:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your boyfriend knows he is your boyfriend. Maybe you should talk to him and find out what is going on. I think it's time you moved on and just stay friends with this guy if you can. How old r u? He can't be in love with you if he has another girlfriend. Think about it you haven't got another boyfriend cause you think your in love with this boy, why has he?
Good luck on this one I think it's time to move on............
2007-01-17 07:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Donna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should move on at this point. you can send him e mail and let him know how you feel. but i don't think that will do any good now. he may do the same when hes back with you. i hope you know were this is going. i smell a rat. thanks i need 10 points
2007-01-17 07:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love, not we. He loves or wants to be with someone else. Move on!
2007-01-17 07:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you already told hI'm how you felt about him cheating and that you don't like it ...and he still doing it then all im saying is just move on ........but you don't have to take my word that's just my opinion ........!?!?
2007-01-17 07:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋