Shyness, self esteem?

Question

I have always been very shy and have a low self esteem, especially when it comes to anything social. What can I do to work on this? What has worked for you?

Answer 1

Have you tried slowly by chatting with people on the net, then started some sort of class where you'll meet people???

Getting a job in the "service" industry might help...

Answer 2

You have to realize, what really makes anyone else any better than you? They might seem happier, but the fact is, everyone has self-doubt and views themselves in a critical way. Some of us just hide it better than others.

To build my self esteem, I typically do two things:

First, I write down all of the positive attributes about myself. Everyone can do something better than someone else. Write down the things that legitimately make you happy. Put this list next to your computer.

Second, figure out your sources of stress and sadness. Write those out as well, and figure out how you can eliminate these from your life.

It sounds simple, but it's worked great for me!

Answer 3

For some people, learning to love themselves is not an easy task. It can take a years to break the thought process that may have been going on for a lifetime.

For each person, the process may be different. What works for some may not work for others. The key is to truly enjoy life, you cannot give up on yourself. Try anything and everything: journaling, meditation, therapy, antidepressants, B vitamins, exercise, etc. What works for you will be different than what works for someone else. Trust your instincts. And never give up.

Answer 4

i think u should try having a friend thats outgoing and understand your problem this will really help try to do almost everything with ur friend b4 u know it u,ll get over the shyness and as far as ur self esteem thats in u u need to feel good about urself regardless of what anyone says abt u as long as u happy with u then know one else matters

Answer 5

Firstly, you have to learn to pamper yourself. Indulge in some luxuries that you wouldn't normally. Give yourself some attention, change your style, cut your hair a little.....Just spending time on yourself will enhance your confidence and you automatically feel better.
Secondly, look at the people around you and imagine them naked or on the toilet....ask yourself why should you feel less confident than them? What makes them so special?
Thirdly, reward yourself for any progress made and do give mental pats on the back when you do things well. Just learn to love yourself a little more, and trust me, everyone else will. Good luck!

Answer 6

I used to be very shy too.I was always shy away from talking to people,my voice was so low that people could hardly hear me,and mum often punished me for this.Maybe she felt ashamed of me.
When I entered Middle School,I was even more self-deprecating coz I couldn't speak Mandarin and my classmates often make fun of me.Later,I knew that I had to change myself.If I was not confident of myself,how could I expect others to like me?
So, I forced myself to be confident of myself.First of all, I learned that everyone was special,and we should be treated equally.Second,those who liked to make fun of others didn't worth our time and emotion to spend with.
After that,I found self-esteem,and now I'm confident enough of myself.
What I want to tell you is that never under evaluate yourself,coz you're special!

Answer 7

have ur self tested
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