got proposal from a doctor.he is from good-family but due to some personal reasons am not willing to at present.cant express infront of parents.he is not bothered about girls interest.no communication.he plans to come suddenly and settle in one day.have thought about it but is preferences dont meet mine.how to express and communicate it to him so that he will not be hurt.
dont have any avenue to express him.having panic attacks in night-times.
2007-01-16 22:49:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't know why you should hesitate to express your view, in an important matter like your marriage . Be forthright, regardless of what others might feel about it.
2007-01-16 23:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't feel worthy of him and cannot possibly marry him. Then stick with that no matter what he says to make you change your mind.
Or you could have someone you trust meet with him when he comes and say that you do not even feel worthy enough to be in his presence so you have humbly asked this person to deliver the message for you that you are not worthy to be his wife and that it is your hope that he will find happiness and all that he deserves with someone else.
2007-01-17 07:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply be honest. There is no real way to keep from hurting others feelings. But you are definitely capable and responsible of taking care of your own. Tell him exactly what you said here. He may be hurt. Be you will feel a sense of great relief. Take this opportunity to empower yourself. He will feel the way he feels. Giving him any false hope would be much worse than hurting his feelings.
2007-01-17 07:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER DIE COWARDLY IN THE NAME OF "NOT-TO- HURT ANY ONE" IN YOUR PRECIOUS SHORT-LIFE!
Suppose, your child chooses a clear-cut bad way to proceed with, what will you do? Will you be shutting your mouth for the sake of mere courtesy, "good-family" and this and that?
Life is having its broader meaning, which your Heart only has to decode that language for your welfare!
If your heart says, he is not suitable to your long marital life, be bold to express it in some other way! But express it!
Would you be searching words, when your child is in dangerous condition, as to how to articulate and seek the help from the particular Doctor! Would you not cry, shouting and do all sort of insensible actions to save your beloved child?
DO SOMETHING!
START NOW!
AND NEVER BE ASKING ANY QUESTION TO ANY ONE!
Because,
YOUR BOAT IS NOW SINKING.....
AND
YOUR LIFE IS IN DANGER......!
2007-01-20 13:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by yozenbalki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok......this is a lil complicated......be frank wit your parents.....n tell him that you know someone who would suit him much better than you.....if he is smart enough he'll get the point..
2007-01-17 07:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by coolgalwitattitude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋