Why do you think married couples fight so much about money, and how do you think we can change this?

Answer 1

They are not focused on the primary reason that they got married in the first place - that they love one another and want to be together.

Couples can be happy when they have very little money, and some couples will never be happy if they have tons of money.

Money has NOTHING to do with love.

As long as you're focused on money, you will always have trouble.

Only so much comes in, you have your basic expenses, and they you can decide to do what you want with what's left.

But, there are also couples who are just way to argumentative, and they seem to NEED to argue about something....if it wasn't money, it would be something else.....

Answer 2

I think a major part of the reason couples argue about money is because they were used to spending it any way they wanted and now they have to make sure that there is enough for bills....Single people have a larger amount of disposable income, and people get used to that life style...when married...that disposable income gets spent on morgages, children, bigger cars to fit the family....and it gets frustrating when you look back at what you used to be able to do and get for yourself that you cant do anymore....but I think someone above had it right, if we had enough money to pay all the bills, and get all the material things we wanted and still have some left for emergancies...there wouldnt be fighting....The best thing I think you can do if you dont have that kind of income is be understanding of your partner and his or her needs, agree on the budget together, and what big purchases you will make...make sure that you do save to do things together or to buy something you both will enjoy....

Answer 3

This all depends on the individuals in the marriages... My husband and I dont fight about money.... But at the same time this can start changing if people in the marriage would discuss financial ideas and let one person do the bills and things and kinda take control of the finances... When two people do it it usually ends up a mess and in chaos.... Talk and agree on things especially expensive things and ideas before acting on or buying them. http://www.moneymatters.org http://www.drphil.com and http://www.marriagetoday.org Hope this has been some sort of help.

Answer 4

Usually fighting about money is fighting about who has the power.

Sit down and without arguing...do a monthly budget...something you can both stick to.

Then get 3 bank accounts...1 for each of you and one for the your household expenses. You should each get the same amount of money for personal things after you deposit money in the household account.

Unless there's an emergency stay within the budget and you'll have nothing to argue about.

Answer 5

Every couple has problems with money issues, even wealthy ones! The problem is that money is power, who and how that power is weilded is what causes the fights! Couples that learn to share and/ or compromise on this issue are those that tend to fare better!

Answer 6

They fight because they don't agree about
1) how it is made
2)who makes it
3)who spends it
4)how it gets spent
5)what it gets spent on
6)who pays the bills
7) how much doesn't get spent (what gets saved)

and the best way to change it is to talk about it and don't assume the other person was raised the same way you were and come to some sort of mutual agreement about the way things are handled

Answer 7

I think couples fight most about money when there isn't enough. I mean, if we could each buy everything we want, why would we fight. I don't think rich people fight over money. I think they fight over other things.

Answer 8

Love of money is the root of all evil. Love your spouse more than money. Sit down and make a budget together, stick to it and then there's nothing to argue about.

Answer 9

hey friend the root cause of unhappiness is expectations...we are human beings and its our nature that we expect frm others
wen we are in love and courtship we expect love frm others
but once we are in practical life...all love takes is back seat and the reality pops up...men are at work and women are care takers..they need to look after the needs of famlily..so everyone expects things frm her, similarly she expects her husband to earn appropriate so that all needs of every member is taken care of............now this becomes a vicious circle
and then wen expectations are not met ...they tend to create differences... all husbands and wivies therefore must properly plan their life styles..adjust to the needs and neccesities..shud pen down their priorities..and make things work..wid out fights....we all are are a part of this ....transperancy in relation works well here,understanding is a must..maturity in thoughts plays a very important role and expecting too much is wrong as today its a competitive world ....one must not comapare life styles wid those of others...

Answer 10

marry the guy/gal who shares the same "money attitude as you have" and opposes it "healthily".