My nature is very bad. If some one say me dishurting thing. I take very much tension and can't help myself getting out of that tension whole day. What i can do to bear all this?
2007-01-16 22:40:39 · 7 answers · asked by leo 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Firstly you should learn to take every thing easy. Do not get tensed. It is not good for health and in the long run you will develop high Blood Pressure, and depression and get angry unnecessarily. People will be scared to talk to you.
So you should be calm and avoid person who happen to irritate you. You can see a doctor but he will treat you for mental diseases and depression which is not good.
So, secondly you practice meditation and do it whenever you get time. You can do it even when you get agitated. If you do not want to do it in presence of others you can go to your bed or even toilet and do it. Just 5 minutes to as much as you can do it. Keep you mind from thinking about the persons who said ill or dis-hurting things about you. This is the best way.
Alternately, (I think you are in India) you can attend the Art of Living Courses conducted by the disciples of Sri Sri Ravishankar and this will also reduce your tension. Try. Best of luck-
(P.S. I am answering many question you answer most of the time same answer - do you get tension ?)
2007-01-16 23:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If possible, discussing this with a therapist could be very helpful. If therapy is not possible, I would suggest the following: Consider the source of the comments. Some people are mean, some are ignorant, some are thoughtless. Understand that if a person is saying something to hurt someone else, there is something wrong with that person. People who are emotionally healthy do not deliberately try to hurt others.
If there is partial truth in what someone says, take an objective look at the facts. Is there truth in what they said? Or is it just triggering a fear that you have inside? If there is truth, then consider whether or not there is anything you can do about it. For example, if someone has a disability, they cannot make it go away. But if it is a legitimate criticism with which you agree, (and it is something within your power to change) then take that part with which you agree, and use it to change yourself for the better.
2007-01-17 06:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by curious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time and think about why that person is saying what they are saying. You will find that most of the time it is something wrong with them. Not you. You should try to focus more on good things instead of bad things and your nature will improve.
2007-01-17 06:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by ☺☻☺☻☺☻ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone says something to hurt your feelings, then tell them that they hurt your feelings. Sometimes people don't realize they have hurt you.
If someone hurt you on purpose remember that the only person you can control is yourself. You can't control what someone else says or does, but you can control how you react to what they've said or done.
Say to yourself you know who you are and their opinions or remarks do not change your belief in yourself. Then prove it by letting it go.
If you want to take it one step further, remember the best way to prove people wrong who talk badly about you is to live well.
2007-01-17 06:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he or she means... If someone says something hurtful to you, how do you handle it? How do you get what this person said out of your mind?
2007-01-17 06:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by mayyouponderthis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reply to them. why should you allow them to say something bad about you?
2007-01-17 06:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by PassionFruit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good ol FU will do the trick.....
2007-01-17 06:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋